To go out on my own tomorrow?

[RedHotSanta]

DH has gone out to do his all-consuming hobby this evening after working all week. He wanted to do it tomorrow instead for 3 or 4 hours, but I said I'd really rather he didn't as I thought we should spend Xmas Eve together as a family (DH has somewhat of a history of ranking his hobby above family at times). DH agreed to this.

Thing is, I have been at home with the hyper Xmas-obsessed DCs all week (took some time off work) and feel like I'm starting to go round the bend! Weather is awful, DCs are manic, all Xmas chores more or less done, and I am actually bored and fed up now. Its been a long week. I'm even fed up of MNing !

So I am dying to escape for an hour or two tomorrow on my own. Anywhere would do! Now normally I would think this was totally fair as DH is out tonight, but I did give him the big lecture about a family day, and how important it was to spend time all together.

So, would IBU to suggest having a bit of 'me time' (hate that expression!) tomorrow, in light of my previous discussion with DH?

If you go out in the daytime, technically it is not Christmas Eve, therefore you cannot be considered to be being hypocritical.

No, YANBU. There is one rule for DH and another one for you, as he should well know. Go out for an hour (or two) and give DH the ' glare' if he says anything.

YANBU to go out for an hour or two. You could always tell him you have to pick up something to do with his present if you're that worried.

Yes, lie.

oooh, I like your thinking Gonzo.

Since you made a song and dance about it you would be unreasonable and more importantly you would NEVER hear the end of it, it will be dragged up every single time you try to prise your OH away from his precious hobby.

Normally I'd say yes of course you should go out, but if you made a big fuss about tomorrow being a family day, and he's rearranged his plans to make sure he's there for that reason, I can see he might feel a bit annoyed and messed around if you suddenly announce you're going out.

If you're really desperate for a bit of time to yourself though, just tell him you know you said what you said, and you did mean it at the time, but now your sanity depends on having a bit of a break!

I think you should book in some time for you to go out on your own - say on the 27th - so you get to relax a bit after Christmas but you don't then go back on your word about Christmas Eve.

I told the truth to DH (that I was going insane being stuck in the house, and that I'd like to pop out for an hour or so first thing), and he was absolutely fine and lovely about it. I said I knew it was a bit hypocritical but he said no problem!

ha!

always best to simply be honest