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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think kids really shouldn't

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Newmummytobe79 · 23/12/2011 10:07

run upstairs as soon as they arrive at your house and start jumping on beds and going through draws

get your handbag and empty it of all contents

Fill their pockets with chocolates you've left out for guests to eat at home later on ( - I do have to be slightly impressed with the cheek of this one!)

etc etc etc

Just a bit of Christmas I'm not looking forward to!

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squeakytoy · 23/12/2011 10:11

I would be judging the parents for not teaching their children how to behave, and I would happily pull the children up on their behaviour if it was in my house.

theincredibequeenofwands · 23/12/2011 10:17

They wouldn't be allowed to to that in my house.

Ive had kids like that round. They never get invited back.

Pagwatch · 23/12/2011 10:18

Not acceptable. No.

DeePanCrisPandEeeven · 23/12/2011 10:24

when you go over their house, head for their toy collection.....

MostlyFine · 23/12/2011 10:24

who are these children and what do their parents say/do when they do that?

IloveJudgeJudy · 23/12/2011 10:28

They wouldn't be allowed to at our house, either. Upstairs is out of bounds here without a specific invitation from a specific DC. You don't have to be rude, you just have to tell them that they're not allowed to do that in your house. If it means you have to chase after them and leave the parents on the doorstep, then do that. The parents should be telling them to get downstairs, anyway.

slavetofilofax · 23/12/2011 10:33

They wouldn't be allowed to do that in my house, and if their parents were rude enough to allow them to do it then I would stop them myself. Even my own children ask me before they go into my room when I'm downstairs!

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Newmummytobe79 · 23/12/2011 10:35

Thank goodness it's not just me.

I am under the impression the parents think they are doing no harm and what do we have to hide upstairs as we're family. It makes my blood boil.

Want to be firm with my DC and make sure they never do anything like this.

Glad you all think it's unacceptable behaviour.

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SantaDesperatelySeeksSedatives · 23/12/2011 10:36

NO WAY would mine be allowed to do that! I'd be so embarrassed if they did! What do these kids parents do?

nicknamenotinuse · 23/12/2011 10:38

It is totally unacceptable. We have stair gates on (not for much longer though although I'm tempted to keep them on) and I just say sorry if the stair gate is closed you have stay downstairs. I think our family will have stair gates even when the children are 18.

FriggFRIGGYPudding · 23/12/2011 10:47

How old are the children?

EdithWeston · 23/12/2011 10:53

If you really had left the chocolates out, then what did you expect? They are also your guests, and children of any age (up to at least 45!) would find that too tempting.

I would however be very annoyed at dashing round the house (unless done with the children of the house, in which case I'd be cross with them too!) and jumping on furniture. I'd be inwardly raging about drawers, and barely able to contain myself about the handbag.

Catslikehats · 23/12/2011 10:56

Children who behaved like that wouldn't be invited back. I'd also tell them off if the parents didn't.

But not expecting kids to go for chocolate that has been left for guests is a little bit much, especially if they are young.

KD0706 · 23/12/2011 11:02

Surely it's one thing the children eating the chocolates, and another thing for them to fill their pockets for later?

I must lead a sheltered life, I've never encountered children like the ones described in the OP

TheMonster · 23/12/2011 11:04

Shocking.
A rather popular MNer once visited me and her son was like that. Awful.

EdithWeston · 23/12/2011 11:14

I meant that the chocs were out, and so I'd expect them to vanish. But yes, nicking the whole stash for consumption off the premises is greediness.

Winkly · 23/12/2011 11:17

Fair enough to the chocolates but the rest is outrageous. I had two loving sets of grandparents we saw regularly and NEVER went upstairs past the toilet unless specifically sent for something. They'd not be invited back to my house.

Bloodymary · 23/12/2011 11:52

YA definatly NBU. My little girl is taught to never open upstairs doors in other peoples houses.
And if other children do it in my house I will tell them to stop it myself.

Pagwatch · 23/12/2011 11:54

Oh that's a bit mean BodyofEyore.

Were you joking? Isn't it possible posters who know you will worry.

TheMonster · 23/12/2011 12:01

I don't know any in RL anymore so no they won't.

The MNer in question is long gone, I think.

SantasHat · 23/12/2011 12:08

OP I would invest in a few door locks before they descend on you if it is a regular visit.
Don't put out any sweets and hide your handbag.
Say upstairs is out of bounds until bedtime.
Set a few ground rules.
"My house My Rules" is a good thing to tell them before they kick off. Have fun!

Pagwatch · 23/12/2011 12:11

Oh sorry Body. Fair enough.

I have never had anyone behave like that in my house. It would freak me out. And bear in mind I have lots of children with sn over here so the boundaries of regular behaviour can be stretched.

DeePanCrisPandEeeven · 23/12/2011 12:26

I'd still threaten to stamp on their toys a la the Gene Genie. (only language they know..mumbling..)

Pandemoniaa · 23/12/2011 12:30

It'd drive me demented. My bedroom was always out of bounds to visiting children and actually, I discouraged going upstairs at all when the dcs were little and had friends over. Certainly upstairs wasn't somewhere that random running wild was permitted.

The occasional young visitor would need reminding that this was how things were in our house and the occasional young visitor would ignore this advice. But only once since they were unlikely to be invited again.

I actually think it is unfair not to teach children how to behave in other people's houses because nobody likes to entertain anyone who rampages around like a Wild Thing with no sense of boundaries.

Peachy · 23/12/2011 12:37

Not acceptable at all; I have a visitor at home for the first time right now in fact, a child who attends the local ASD Comp with ds1 and he is wonderfully behaved (so far)- better check my bedroom door is closed (messiest room of the house)

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