To be annoyed that I'm going to have a crap night sleep tonight?

[Iodine]

Me and 'D'P are visiting my parents for xmas. We are staying in my old bedroom. I have only been gone a year so it is still my old single bed which isn't ideal. We usually bring a double airbed and muggins here slept on it for the past few times we have been here- one being the night before a very important job interview so I sacraficed a good nights sleep for him to have one.

Last night we squeezed into the single and had a bad night. I ended up sleeping on the sofa downstairs as he has no concept of the fact I might want some space too. Today we agreed to blow up the air bed and I commented that it was his turn to sleep on the airbed.

Tonight, 'D'P snuck off to bed unannounced. I thought he was just popping upstairs to the toilet. I have come up to find him fast asleep IN MY RIDICULOUSLY COMFY BED (!), airbed still in it's bag, he has taken the double duvet leaving me with the single and is sleeping on all the pillows. He has opened the window because he 'gets really hot' even though I get cold easily.

To top it all off I can't blow the bed up. I have got it to a flaccid state but it wont pump up any more. I have even tried blowing it up by mouth. So I get to sleep on the floor cold tonight :( .

AIBU to be pissed off?

Wake him up! What a selfish arsehole!
Is he selfish in other ways? Why do you allow him to treat you like this?

Are you pinching the valve together so it makes an oval shape to blow the matress up?

I might be teaching you to suck eggs, but I can't think of any reason why air would stop going in.

Shut the window.

Roll him off onto the floor if you can't get the matress out of its flaccid (arf) state.

Swap the duvets if you can.

You're entitled!

Wake him up and get him to help blow it up. Then, when he's in full blow mode, jump into the single bed. Simple

He pulled a good 'un sneaking upstairs first though didn't he OP?

Bet you wished you'd thought of it?

He'd have warmed it up an' all Faff - good plan

He was the ultimate Champion of Bedwars

tent in the garden , answer to all beddage aggrivation

I wouldn't have dreamed of rushing up first. I can't be bothered with the hassle that waking him up qill create. We're not exactly liking each other right now. And my dear mum and dad are sleeping next door and I don't want them to hear the torrent of swear words that will be aimed at me if I wake him up :(

Is it bad if I say I want him to just go away and leave me alone for Christmas? i just want some time with my parents and friends... He's doing my head in.

And the bed has an inbuilt pump. Think it's knackered.

Sorry if I made light of what sounds like you being trapped in that room with him.

If he's generally being a shit, you wouldn't be unreasonable to tell him to sling his hook to give you some peace.

But it would be a relatively serious thing to do with your relationship, if you feel it's been going downhill for a while could it spell the end for you?

If you whooped with joy and relief at the last bit, you'd be doing the right thing

You can't just sleep on the floor Iodine.

I'm terrible if I'm woken up (similar swearing probably to your DH ) but I wouldn't want DH to just be on the floor, it's so fucking uncomfortable!

Seriously...I was engaged to that bloke. Well, maybe not him but one just like him. Get rid, now. This sounds small but is an indicator of BIG issues. Get rid of him tomorrow.

Sorry to have made light of your situation and make a jokey post

Ask him to go away for few days and gather your own thoughts on what you would like to happen next

It's ok. Someone has got to laugh about it - I know I'm not in a situation to but thanks for doing it for me :)

I want him to disappear for a few days but his family are all in cornwall. I have already been bollocked this year for him not being able to see his family as I can't afford the fuel to get there and he can't afford it if I don't pay half. And we've driven my car to my parents.

I'm freezing. It's the lack of respect that hurts me the most. Even dogs get a bed to lie on,

Time to ask yourself what you want in life. My man would have blown the airbed up. Yours didn't. Maybe time for a new man.

I have a magic set purchased for DC's would that help him to go 'poof'

he doesn't sound very nice

there is life after arseholes and you will come through this

Give him the train fare to the other side of fuck cornwall, and call it a day. Your parents will be outraged at his seriously cuntish behaviour, not looking good for a long term relationship. Hope you get comfy on the sofa. At least the temp this evening isnt as wintery as it might have been.

Wake him up and tell him to leave.

If you really don't want that go sleep on the sofa, at least it will be warm. Then in the morn ing tell him to go.

Oh sweetie, YANBU to be pissed off. My DH, especially in the early days, would never have pulled a stunt like that. He does not deserve you. You do not deserve to be treated like that. Find a good man who will treat you properly. They do exist.

So he sneakily got the jump on his partner to ensure that he secured the more comfortable sleeping place for the night. Nevermind that she would have to pump up an airbed or go doss on the sofa due to his selfishness in hogging the bed.

I don't know any decent men who would behave in such a way. What a selfish little git.

Nicer new man in the new year eh?

Uuurrgh what are his good points OP?

whatever probs. a rel. may have, being treated like this spells the end, all on it's own. Selfishness beyond belief. It's a cameo appearance of what is to come.

or Ghost of Christmas' Future even..

How was he this morning Iodine?

I hope he realised what a shit he was being and has made it up to you.

Did you get any kip in? I don't like to think of you on that hard floor

Can you talk to your parents about it? They must notice what's going on.

sorry but why are you with this man?

it's not normal behaviour in any w ay...