Sorry in advance for any spelling mistakes, I'm dyslexic and bloody annoyed.
Dh can be hard work at times but the last few months have just been a joke and I think I have had enough. 2 years ago we split up and I moved out but he became the perfect husband and persuaded me to come back but thing have just gone down hill
He is a self employed plasterer, works for small firms, does private jobs in peoples house, that sort of thing. He bought the dc's main Christmas presents the beginning of October as he had been working well and had the cash (end of november, december are usually quiet, work wise), he hasn't worked since, hasn't even tried, I have heard him take phone calls for jobs and heard him say 'sorry can't do anything at the moment, I'm mad busy till Christmas'
He never contributes anything towards Christmas, bar the dc's main presents. I buy for IL's, his 6 DN's, my DM, DF, DN and buy all the food, drink, extras for the boys, clothes, pretty much everything.
A few weeks ago he applied for carers allowance as both our ds's have sn. I receive it for ds2 who is more severe than ds1, so he decided to claim for ds1 and claim the full 12 weeks back pay, totalling a payment of £850ish and kept it all to himself, his Christmas money!
Since being out of work he has done nothing for the boys, stays in bed till 10am minimum, and moans at me that things around the house haven't been done, even though I do 2 volunteer jobs and he has been sitting on his bum all day watching TV. Last week he informed me he was going out this Friday for his Christmas night out, WTF! He will also be going out Saturday, I know he means he will be out from about noon till whenever he rolls in. I decided to plan Friday and Saturday out so I could get everything done, food shopping, picking up ds's presents from DM's house, delivering DN's Christmas presents. All planned for when I knew he would be here, or when ds2 is with his paid carer.
I told him 3 days ago I was going to go food shopping at around 6am friday, for several reasons, it would be quiet, they should have plenty on the shelves and TC will be in the bank. Today he went to see IL's coming back at about 4pm to tell me he was taking FIL to a hospital appointment for 9.30 in the morning, I replied OK I should have been back from shopping for a while by 9am, he went mental! How dare I even think of going shopping when he was taking FIL to the hospital even when I had planned to go 3 hours before he needed to leave. He has insulted me , my parents calling me names till I went out at 5pm, getting back at 7pm to be told what a selfish bitch I was and to be ignored for the rest of the night.
This has messed up all my plans, it's going to cost more as we need some food for tomorrow so I will have to go local.
I am seriously thinking of calling it a day. It is not only affecting me but also ds1 who DH has no problem talking to me like dirt in front of.