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AIBU?

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To be pissed off with dh? Probably! Warning- boring!

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sighnomore · 22/12/2011 22:55

ok will fully accept that I probably am but I am getting more annoyed by the minute and need some wise mn advice (probably to suck it up)

Dh on his work Christmas do. Out for a boozy lunch at 1. things Haven't been great in his work, morale is low, lucky to still have a job etc so told me he would have lunch and a few drinks and be home.

DHs parents live abroad and stay with use for a week and half over Christmas. I find it hard with inlaws here cooking etc and our 2 dcs 2 and 6. Which he doesn't get! Although have finished work today so not so bad.

Have cooked for kids and inlaws, bathed children, put to bed, cleared up, chatted to inlaws etc etc

He rang at 6, drunk, offered to pick him up but no, offered to pick him up at 8, no, haven't heard anything since then. That's 10 hours drinking now!

Inlaws now Watching a film and I am getting pissed off he's not home . Aibu? I don't know?

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AgentZigzag · 22/12/2011 23:00

You're not responsible for him still being down the pub, maybe your PIL are quite happy just watching a film?

Just do the stuff you'd normally do and point/laugh at him when he rolls in arseholed?

Remember to take note of all the inappropriate things he says to your guests (even if they are his parents) you can remind him of them over breakfast tomorrow morning to get him back

Seabright · 22/12/2011 23:00

YANBU. Has he got to go to work tomorrow? Set a very loud alarm clock for him and send the kids in to jump all over the bed.

marriedandwreathedinholly · 22/12/2011 23:01

I don't think you are unreasonable to feel a bit put out but he's had a bad year, he's having a drink and probably a nice time. If I were you (21 years with DH) I'd go to bed and get some sleep. He will be the one with the headache in the morning and who can "pay" on Saturday in return for you smiling sweetly and entertaining his parents. You are more likely to come out of this with the upper hand if you smile sweetly and nod gently at your MIL tomorrow than if you get arsy and the PILs witness a spat.

PS: My DH went out for a a drink at 5pm tonight and has gone apparently, with clients, to a strip club. He just couldn't excuse himself because they are such important clients. I'm off to bed in a minute and have said dd can get in with me for a cuddle. She's 13 and still up!

skybluepearl · 22/12/2011 23:06

take a film of him getting in and your parents reaction! try and see the funny side

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sighnomore · 22/12/2011 23:26

Thanks' he's just arrived in plastered, that annoyed sort of plastered- oh this love you sooo much let's have another bottle
Of wine etc. This will be fun NOT wish me luck!

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AgentZigzag · 22/12/2011 23:34

His parents must know what he's like.

Just ply them with drinks so they get in a similar state then you can slope off to bed

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sighnomore · 22/12/2011 23:43

This is what pisses me off though- the Rest of the guys with families
Etc went home early evening but he stayed
Out with one other single guy til now. He's just rolled off he bed onto the floor and won't get up

disclaimer this is not a usual occurrence

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Spermysextowel · 22/12/2011 23:47

Tell him where you've left the platters arrayed with continental breakfast (some weirdy meats, sweaty cheese slices, fried doughnutty things) & that he's in charge in the morning. Abscond upstairs & speed-read that book that you bought as a present but really wanted yourself. Without bending the spine. Of the book, not self; Xmas shopping for 7hrs has seriously bent my spine.

AgentZigzag · 22/12/2011 23:47

'I'm a twat' in permenant marker across his forehead?

That'll remind him without you having to say a word in the morning.

You can just look smug

Bogeyface · 22/12/2011 23:48

leave him there and encourage the kids to "play" with daddy in the morning!

Tbh I would have been bloody annoyed too, but as it is a rare occurrence, I would let it go this time. He hasnt had a great time at work and let his hair down just this once.

You will get your revenge when the creature from the swamp emerges with the worst hangover know to man, cos if he doesnt do this often then he will hurt, OMG how he will hurt :o

Bogeyface · 22/12/2011 23:49

'I'm a twat' in permenant marker across his forehead?

Written backwards so he can see it clearly in the mirror and deny all knowledge. He will assume his single workmate did it :o

aquashiv · 22/12/2011 23:50

Tis the season to get shit faced though give him a break.

Shenanagins · 22/12/2011 23:51

It depends on the guy. If he is out every week, down the pub (or something similar) then yeah you are right to be annoyed. However, if it is a once in a blue mood blow out then let him go and have his fun and watch him suffer tomorrow.

Bogeyface · 23/12/2011 00:07

When I said I would be bloody annoyed, it would have been at the "I'll be back at 4....no, 6...no,8......soon....probably.........................................no contact..............................

Once he was home I would be ok, but I am a worrier and would be concerned if anything had happened and also what state he would be in. Once he is back, I am fine, I just leave him to it! Mine does this v v rarely too, less often now since the time he fell asleep downstairs insisting he didnt want to go to bed and then the kids were down at 7am. That was funny, bloody hilarious infact :o

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sighnomore · 23/12/2011 00:08

No he's definitely not a once a week in the pub guy this a is a once every few months or more occurrence- but he cannot seem to control himself when he does go out- ever! Even when everyone else can he has to take it further.

But yea Tis the season and all that

Pils still watching movie should I offer more crisps?!

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Bogeyface · 23/12/2011 00:11

NO! They might go to bed if you dont!

Infact, go to the bathroom and come down in your pjs with cream on and rollers in. Subtle I aint :o

AgentZigzag · 23/12/2011 00:16

Nowt wrong with Host Expectation Cues BF.

Yawning, repeatedly looking at the clock saying 'is that the time? ', staring at your guests in a mildly sinister manner etc, all go towards a pleasant, stress free visit

Bogeyface · 23/12/2011 00:21

Between our friends we have stopped being subtle!

If the hosts have had enough then we just say "Right, I love you and love your company but can you fuck off now please?"

It works as we are all cool with it, we have a laugh and no offence is meant or taken, but I have been tempted to say it to those not in the know just see what happens :o

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