to be pissed off at DP for being spineless?

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DP and his DD (10) had been invited round for Xmas dinner on Xmas Eve. DP and I do not live together. My DDx2 (5yrs, twins) are off to their dad's on Xmas day, so we're having a pre xmas xmas on Saturday. I sort out cooking, pressies etc as if it was Xmas day. DDx2 adore SD. SD an only child. SD decides suddenly she wants to do "something else" and has announced via DP she's going shopping instead with her friends. DDx2 devastated. I'm annoyed with DP for not standing up to her and explaining better the significance of the day and encouraging her to come along. AIBU?

Christmas Eve is usually quite quiet in the shops tbh, it's a misconception IMO that the shops are heaving

You have to be joking! I always end up having to go to the shops on Xmas Eve and it is hell!

I, like many others, doubt she is shopping on Xmas Eve, she probably just doesn't want to eat two Christmas dinners one day after the other, hang out with two five year olds and Dad's girlfriend. She's probably got Mum's support and maybe even Dad can see her point too.

My son has to visit his relations even though he doesn't want to but if I was expected to persuade him to fit in with my ex's new girlfriends plans I don't think I'd put any pressure on her to go against her wishes. It's her Christmas too after all.