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got no money but colleague wants to buy boss an xmas present

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:26

not only that but he wants me to organise it. Really struggling with xmas, single parent and very little money to buy my 2 presents but my colleague today suggests we buy our 3 bosses xmas presents and I organise it as I'm in the office tomorrow. They don't buy us anything and if it really comes to it I'll chip but I'm damned if I'm instigating it!!

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:27

just said I won't organise it for the reasons above, now seem really tight but am the only single parent and my bosses are the least of my concerns. Wanted to buy my little girl something special not my damned bosses who I don't like anyway. Am seething really.

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WorraLiberty · 22/12/2011 00:28

What did you collegue say to that?

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:29

no reply yet. Just going to ignore now.

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squeakytoy · 22/12/2011 00:29

wtf??

they dont buy you anything, but your colleague thinks you should chip in to buy them something...erm...the phrase "go swivel" springs to mind..

Flisspaps · 22/12/2011 00:30

Good on you for saying no Smile

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:31

I know it's bloody ridiculous. I've spent a fortune this year and really overdrawn. Wanted to get my DD something really nice but couldn't afford it. Now will seem really tight but I'm opening no more emails from him till new year, have decided.

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:33

may find they do buy us something, I don't know but I'm not organising getting presents for them. Can't think of a way of not contributing if a collection goes around though : (

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HoneyandHaycorns · 22/12/2011 00:39

As a manager, I would be deeply embarrassed if staff were to buy me a gift and I had nothing to give in return - I would be positively squirming. As it happens, I do tend to get a bottle of something for the staff I directly line manage, but I certainly don't expect them to reciprocate. And I would think no differently of someone who did get a gift than of someone who didn't.

LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer · 22/12/2011 00:41

What Honey said!

allohora · 22/12/2011 00:41

To my mind a Christmas gift is from boss to staff to say thanks for their work over the year. Bought my assistants nice gifts today and took them out for lunch. Would feel a bit embarrassed if they felt they should give me something in return. YANBU.

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wantanewname · 22/12/2011 00:46

exactly, it should be the other way around. But to be honest even if it were, my colleagues/bosses/assistants etc are the least of my concern this year. I just haven't got the money for it full stop.

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