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Original poster

In not taking 2yr old DD and my pg self to Drs?

16 replies

MeltingChocolateBunnies · 21/12/2011 19:55

Im 32wks pg and DD and I have a cold (runny/bloked nose, chesty cough, sore throat) MIL has rung DH to insist we go to the doctors.

I think this is utterly pointless but I'm happy to be told I'm wrong by MNetters.

I've had no temp. Dd had one for 24hrs 4 days ago controlled by calpol. We are both eating, drinking, staying in and sleeping more than normal. I've had a few paracetamol. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a cold to take more than a week to clear up and just think that a trip to the doctors is a waste of everyones time and a chance for us to spread germs.

I'm not impressed by MIL's bossy phone call and think she's in the wrong.

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tholeon · 21/12/2011 19:57

MIL is being silly. Doesn't sound like either of you need to go in.

FestiveFriedaWassailsAgain · 21/12/2011 19:58

She sounds a PITA very interested MIL.

If you are normally capable of making GP appts when you need them, I would make an appt when you are ill enough to need one. Generally, those symptoms are unlikely to warrant anything from the Dr - maybe you could speak to a pharmacist first then you can tell MIL that a professional has advised you not to waste the doctors time on how to manage your symptoms.

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2011 20:00

oh come on, she is just concerned about you and her grandchildren

my mum often "insists" that I go to the doctor. I just say "oh maybe" and feel a tiny bit pleased that she still, even though I am all grown-up, feels so protective over me,

give the poor woman a break

Mumcentreplus · 21/12/2011 20:03

ignore...

fuzzypeach1750 · 21/12/2011 20:05

if it was my mum suggesting i went then thats ok but if MIL insisted i went to the doctor then id tell her where to go!!

ThatsNotSantasBabyBelly · 21/12/2011 20:08

I only take the dc's or myself to the doctors if I don't know what they will say. If I know they will say you have a cold take some calpol/paracetamol and lie on a sofa I wouldn't go.

If dc had a chesty cough they couldn't get rid of and a wheeze, then I would go.

DH should get loyalty points for attendence Wink

Original poster
MeltingChocolateBunnies · 21/12/2011 22:02

Thank you for the replies.

I'll watch the coughs and make an appointment I they get worse.

Mil is acting out of genuine worry and she is a fantastic Grandma. She's got her GP on speed dial and goes rushing there at the first sign of a sniffle which I'm obviously not like.

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timetosmile · 21/12/2011 22:08

Please make an appointment.

It will cheer your GP up no end to see a healthy blooming pregnant lady and sweet small child excited about Santa.

Their days at the moment are full of whingey pensioners who want to stock up on several months worth of medicines 'to see them over the festive season' or ladies of extreme age with bad chests and sixteen layers of clothes to be pared down in order to apply stethoscope to skin...

Original poster
MeltingChocolateBunnies · 21/12/2011 22:15

Grin are you a GP timetosmile?

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Sidge · 21/12/2011 22:25

LOL at timetosmile

I'm a practice nurse and you wouldn't believe the dross that gets booked in this week - all sorts of "my throat has been sore for 37 minutes but as you're going to be closed for 4 days I thought I'd better make an urgent appointment". And "I had an ingrowing toenail 3 months ago, it's been fine since but as you're going to be closed for 4 days I thought I'd better get it checked out".

You know you don't need to go to the GP, but just nod and smile to your MIL and agree.

wrigglerstea · 21/12/2011 22:42

Oh God the layers.

And when you manage to get it all untucked you find that the bottom layer is and ancient set of "combinations" with no poppers at the underneath which means that actually the whole lot is going to have to be taken off...

anonacfr · 21/12/2011 22:46

SIL's father is a paediatrician. He diagnoses her kids with various illnesses over the phone and writes her prescriptions for antibiotics when they have a cold.
The routinely have half a dozen courses of ABs every winter. Hmm

ScaredyDog · 21/12/2011 22:51

Don't go and spread your coughs and sniffles, you're right to stay at home.

My GP is brilliant, I've had a cold for two weeks and it's turned into a chest infection (got the horrible soreness start the other day - I'm asthmatic and know when it happens) and she wrote me a prescription for ABs over the phone for DP to pick up - on the instruction that I only took them if it got worse and I was sure it was a chest infection.

It is, and I'm taking them and feel a lot better. Drs don't want people with colds and coughs in their waiting rooms unless they are really poorly and need ABs - YANBU.

ReindeerBollocks · 21/12/2011 22:54

Stay at home - eat well and rest (if you can with a toddler).

It is nice that she is so concerned for you both, she clearly thinks a lot of you and that's very sweet.

BubbleBobble · 21/12/2011 23:09

It's situations like this that little white lies were invented for. I recommend you choose from one of the following:

*Oh, we tried to get an appointment but there aren't any unless it's urgent, so we had a telephone consultation and the doctor says not to worry unless we get a temperature.

*Saw the doctor, everything was fine.

*Spoke to NHS Direct/pharmacist, no need for a doctors appointment, everything is fine.

skybluepearl · 21/12/2011 23:26

I'd just relax in bed unless it turns into a chest infection - in which case get to the docs pronto

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