AIBU to want...

[Hypermutley]

to love and to be loved passionately.... to desire and to be desired.....to be one to take his breath away.....well sometimes atleast.
been married 6 years with him for 7. i've not felt this way and i know he has not either. he was different to the 2 i dated previously. he is a good man and not an arse like the other two. caring and generous. didnt look at another tho. but feel empty now, last two weeks have been hard.

is it just me, are there others? AIBU.

Put down the Mills and Boon .....

of course you aren't BU... but you are probably being unrealistic . I dare say a few posters will pop up and say they are still experiencing unbridled lust and fiery passion for their long term partners.. but most of settle for a deep but much calmer love. My DH doesn't set the room alight for me, but he does make me feel safe, and loved...and for me that is enough.

Depends on what you want from life, but if you have committed to your DH in marriage then you should be working in being happy with him given that he sounds a decent man.

What Medusa said. I personally think it would be exhausting to remain in the 'honeymoon period' permanently.

We go through phases where we do feel that fiery passion, but it's usually pissed upon by 2 children who need little sleep!

A good man is more than enough for me, but get where you're coming from. Unfortunately non of those things mean much when the chips are down, for that, you need a good man.

lol - never read an mills and boon in my life!

i've felt it once with my 1st and miss it now, he was possessive tho. it hurts that i never felt this way about dh or him about me. we've had some issue relating to his job (or lack of it!) and i think his recent attitude is putting me off him. he is still a decent good man.

YANBU I have a decent good man. There is something missing. Sex, basically. Apart from that little thing he is everthing and I love him very much.
He is just everything anyone could want.
He just doesnt want me in bed.

hmmmm been 3 years since we last had sex.... although it's not all his fault i didnt want it really either. but i wish he desires me enough to pull me close and try to make it work or woo me or something. nothing. he is (was!) not very good. when were dating i was always a little drunk and flirty, as young things are, so didnt see it. the sex plummented soon after marriage. but i loved and love him still, but not in the way i want or think it should be between a couple.

Sorry, I didn't realise you were not sleeping with him... Must be hard.

Hyper, me too. I know he CAN do it because he has 2 DS , I feel unwanted even though he is cuddly and affectionate. I want some passion ! I thought when we married that he would sort of come up with the goods...We have tried to talk about it but then I feel like some desperate woman who is gasping for it. I am not - I just want to be made loved to .Just once. Our marriage has never been consummated.

candytuft63 [hugs]

oh dear, your situ sounds bad. not even when you were going out? how long have you been married?

it is hard. its not just the sex that i miss, i want passion darn it!

Been married for a year, courting for 3. He is 16 years older than me. Maybe all his passion has been spent. Am generally happy, though and knew in my heart that the way we are is how it would stay.