To feel a little slighted by not being named on these cards?

[PiousPrat]

DS1&2 and I moved in with DP this summer shortly before DS3 was born so have been here for about 5 months now.

In the last few days we have had a few Christmas cards through the door addressed to MrPrat and family. That's fine, most of these neighbours I haven't spoken to much if at all so I doubt they know all our names and it's nice they thought to include us on the card at all. However, the cards that DP brought home from work were addressed in the same way. He works in a small company, there are only 3 of them there and with the disruption of us moving up and the birth meaning DP took some time off work I know we were talked about, so they know our names.

Am I being a bit precious to feel snubbed in what could have been a corner cutting exercise when facing a mountain of cards to write or is it rude to leave names off a card if you know them?

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. In fact I get slightly spooked when dp brings Christmas cards home from work and people I neither know or am likely to know include my name. It's very thoughtful I suppose but to "Mr Pandemoniaa and family" would happily suffice.

DP and I have lived together for nearly 2 years (2nd Christmas together)

We still get cards addressed separately, mostly from distant family and friends we don't see much of. The important people either know us well enough not to bother or address to both.

I've been in some people's Christmas Card book for 30 years, it wouldn't occur to them to update it unless we got married. In my mind it isn't important so YABU. But only a little bit

I admit to feeling a bit put out when Christmas cards from some relatives are sent to my dad, with just his and my name on - wtf? I left home over 20 years ago , and have been with DH for nearly 10 yrs.

What I find really annoying is an old girlfriend of DH's who persists in sending Christmas cards addressed to DukeofMalfi and children. No mention of me at all .