to be upset that my DW won't let me buy her xmas pressies?

[DadsMightFly]

She got really upset last year over an assortment of pressies including some carefully chosen and anyway harmless paperbacks and a Rumer CD, and stormed round the room before she'd even finished unwrapping half of them - in front of DS.

I try to accommodate, and make sure everything can be taken back to eg John Lewis, but when I asked her about something I wanted to buy her this year she just got really, seriously upset.

The nearest she gives by way of rational explanation is that she doesn't like seeing our money spent - "it's like having teeth pulled".

As far as I can see I'm the only person forbidden to buy her presents, and she's the only person I'm forbidden to buy presents for.

Am I being unreasonable to take this personally? If so, can anyone suggest a way making myself feel better about it?

Are you my dh?? Luckily I can explain her thinking as I am exactly the same! Just listen and don't buy anything, or spend 2 quid on a token gift - chocolate is my fave. My dh isn't the best gift buyer, it comes out of joint money, it is stuff I neither want nor need, it massively annoys me. I can quite easily buy stuff I both want and need the rest of the year using my own cards. I feel no need to be 'treated' and in all honesty find it a bit childish but understand others like it so always buy gifts for those want them. Hth

Are you my dh?? Luckily I can explain her thinking as I am exactly the same! Just listen and don't buy anything, or spend 2 quid on a token gift - chocolate is my fave. My dh isn't the best gift buyer, it comes out of joint money, it is stuff I neither want nor need, it massively annoys me. I can quite easily buy stuff I both want and need the rest of the year using my own cards. I feel no need to be 'treated' and in all honesty find it a bit childish but understand others like it so always buy gifts for those want them. Hth

I normally say I don't want anything if asked, because it's true - I don't! I'm just not very materialistic or interested in acquiring 'stuff' for the sake of it, and if I do want anything, I can buy it for myself.

But she does seem to be over-reacting. DP usually gets me something small anyway, and I don't get upset by it.