to not want christmas to happen this year

[nofrikkincarbs]

DP and I decided to separate, but have now decided to work through things and spend xmas together.

My mum will NOT be able to be nice to dp because of the way he has behaved towards me when things were good.

I am in the midst of a major low (bi polar) and I don?t think I can face Christmas, my mum being snotty or my dp feeling pushed out.

I haven?t done any shopping and I am working until xmas eve

I want to crawl under my duvet and wake up in 2012

Spend it with just your DP then.

Or take your mum's point - if he treated you badly why on earth is he coming back?

YANBU. I think you should do whatever you need to to make it easier for yourself.

Maybe you could see your mum on Christmas Eve and your DP on Christmas Day? Save them from trying to be civil to each other and failing.

Maybe see if you can book a restaurant? People behave better in public places as well as being less cooking effort.

Make the shopping as easy as you can. Bottle of wine and/or nice chocs for both. Or vouchers. Or smellies from Boots.

AKMD - we are as bad as each other. My BP makes me a nightmare to live with. My mum doesnt see it that way and simply thinks its all dp. She cant hide the fact she doesnt think he is good enough for me

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I'll let you into a secret

you can ignore it and spend the day in bed if you want