Sorry, another PIL and Christmas related thread, I really think they are being v unreasonable but maybe I'll be told otherwise!
DH is a lovely man and really idolises FIL (but won't admit that) although he wasn't in his life much when he was growing up. FIL and his wife live hundreds of miles from us, but FIL told DH yesterday that it would 'make his Christmas' if we drove down to them on Christmas Day to spend a couple of hours there. I took issue with this because I am A) Heavily pregnant and not prepared to spend hours and hours in a car in bad weather and bad traffic just for a couple of hours on Christmas Eve with FIL who wouldn't really be grateful for it. B) We have been down a few times this year and they know they're always welcome up here. C) It's not like we're even good enough to be invited to stay over/stay for Christmas. That doesn't matter anyway because we have plans for Christmas.
Anyway, DH sort of agreed that it wasn't a good idea but I was annoyed with him anyway for thinking initially that it was, and for wanting to go down. I know he feels guilty for saying no to his dad, and I can understand that his FIL guilt tripped him into feeling this way, because he just wants to please his dad so much even as an adult. I feel a bit mean now for berating him a bit and having a row with him for considering the idea because I understand how confused he feels about his dad.
This morning the postman knocked with a parcel from his dad, with our Christmas presents in, which we opened (I know! But v nosy). Mine was a...still can't get over this...a U rated children's cartoon dvd about a dog, it was called 'superdog' or something. WTAF? It's not the fact that the dvd was obviously a cheap one no-one has heard of, I would never expect to have a lot of money spent on me, it was just the irrelevance of the present to me, I found it quite offensive, and I can't understand why they sent it? And it was definitely for me and not labelled wrong and sent to the wrong person. I'm wondering if they're trying to prove a point, and if so, what?? It did make me laugh a bit, but out of annoyance more than anything. Wish I'd kept those concert tickets I sent to them for myself! I kind of knew that they never liked me, and have always tried really hard with them, which I won't be after his stupid request re Christmas Eve and weird present. Oh - and what do I say when FIL or his wife asks if I got their present?? IABU to be hugely pissed off?
Sorry this is so long! Hoping I don't get a barrage of YABU!