To not send Christmas cards

[MangoMonster]

As I get older, I feel bad that I don't send Christmas cards... Beginning to think I should... Aibu?

I haven't. Two years in a row I've bought them and not sent them so I just decided not to even bother this year. I'm never organised early enough and I just can't be assed, to be honest. Although I must confess I was a bit pouty when I realised I'd only received ten or so, so far.

[can't have it both ways emoticon]

Do you get cards yourself? Do you want to reciprocate because you'd like people to get the pleasure of a card? Only I'm not sure that guilt alone is an adequate reason to suddenly start sending cards.

I do feel bad when I get cards but to be honest I guess I never really got the point... It's a lovely gesture but a phonecall, email or text would do me. I sound like a grinch...

I have sent 4. But in Belgium the tradition is - you only send them to people you don't see. If you can pass on Xmas greetings in the flesh, you don't need a card. Which makes sense to me

And, yes there are more than 4 people I won't see. But in my mind that is why they invented FaceBook.

I don't send them either. It's both a waste of money and a pita. Every year, my mum bollocks me for it - I care not

It's not Grinch-y, I LOVE Christmas. Just think cards are wank.

YANBU - as long as you don't mind if you don't get any!

But in Belgium the tradition is - you only send them to people you don't see. If you can pass on Xmas greetings in the flesh, you don't need a card. Which makes sense to me

Sound sense to me as well

Happy I'm not the only one! Feel like some people must think I'm ignorant for not doing it, but truth is the people who send them to me, never bother with me the rest of the year!

I never hand out Christmas cards (occasionally like Portofino might send 1 or 2 to distant friends)

Think my dislike started at Primary School when everyone would run around with big handfuls of envelopes and dish them out, and they were always the cards that were too flimsy to stand up with Ye Olde coaching scenes on then...GRIM.

ALWAYS send Birthday cards though

I am extremely unfussed about Christmas.

I like the 24th, 25th and 26th of December - the rest of it just annoys me.

However, I do send Christmas cards and I do love receiving them. Today I received a Christmas card from someone I haven't seen for a couple of years and it just made me SO HAPPY to think he was thinking of me.

Christmas cards, Christmas tree, Christmas lunch, Christmas glass of Baileys - I am happy.

All the rest of the faff and expenditure leaves me cold, tbh.

Yanbu - I gave them up years ago.....and get less and less every year as a result, which suits me.

I guess what takes the goodness out for me is the fact a few people I know see it as a chore and an obligation. To me, that kind of ruins it.

We have moved around a lot and a Christmas card with a letter in is sometimes the only contact we've had with people all year. Now our DCs are older we are beginning to get time to catch up and have seen two sets of old friends this year, without the cards that would never have happened.

Having said that, I don't do Facebook and nor do most of my friends so maybe "you young folks" can use that instead.

bluddy. My house looks lovely and festive with all the cards up, it would upset me to throw them away without getting any benefit from them

I send one card. To my late mums best friend and her husband, who live 250 miles away so I rarely see them, perhaps once every couple of years, and we dont phone each other, so its a card and an annual update of our lives.

Everyone else, I speak to on a regular basis and will verbally wish them happy xmas.

I cant be doing with cards cluttering the house up either, so they get read, put in a pile (which is getting smaller each year, as people dont send us many.. which goes to show how fake it all is anyway, if that is how people decide who to send to... )

I am channelling my inner grinch this year... xmas is on the verge of being cancelled Chez Squeaky..

To be honest, to me Christmas is more about family then people you've lost touch with. Don't have the time , sounds awful I know. If I really thought someone would really appreciate it, I'd do it, but those people are the ones I keep in touch with.

Aw I just looked on FB and saw a message from a friend, whose Dad died Boxing Day 5 years ago. She apologises for not sending cards and will be donating money to Cancer Researcg instead. Good on her. I think dd and I will look at sponsoring a child via Plan International this year rather than stressing about it. Though I will send a card to my Auntie, who is the only member of my family who is actually religious. She always sends one, so so shall I.....

Agree panto it is expensive and might be better to donate. My nephew died last year at 17 and his parents always do something charitable on his birthday, think its a lovely way to celebrate someones life.

Sorry off tangent a bit, but what I meant was would rather donate then waste money on sending cards because it's expected iyswim. I think some people just do it to keep up.

Cards are horrible things, how can you get pleasure in getting a piece of cardboard? YANBU to not send cards, you're being good!

Saving trees!