to judge people who don't send charity Christmas cards

[AnyoneforTurps]

I totally understand if people can't afford /can't be arsed to send Christmas cards. But - if you are going to send them - why in the world would you enrich WH Smith or Paperchase when you could support a charity?

I'm going slightly off topic from cards - but I did buy my Dad's present in Oxfam as it was £1.99 instead of £20.

I hate the whole card thing. Why give someone a present and a card? One or the other, it should be, but in the end you get pressured into doing both. DH even gets me a card! 'Tis bonkers. Cards are for people you are not going to see and to whom you are not giving a gift, but want to keep in touch with and to send good wishes.

That's what I believe Jux

And since I have so many of their email addresses or have them on Facebook, I normally just type them a 'Happy Christmas' message now instead.

Apart from how easy it is, all my bloody local Post Offices closed down so I'd have to walk 2 miles for a sheet of sodding stamps.

I confess I grabbed some cards in boots because the DDs have been on wall to wall concert singing and we didn't get time to make them.
Only when I wrote them did I see they were various charities I have no problem with.
MrsDV I'm interested you did want cancer charity cards, I always wonder if they are appropriate for people who have recently lost someone that way.

I buy cards based on the picture and the words, and the price.

Careful OP, you'll get a nosebleed from the rarefied atmosphere up there on the moral high ground. Of course, I always thought true charity was carried out quietly in a dignified manner, a private thing between you and your conscience. Whereas proclaiming to all those on your Christmas card list your acquaintances that you give, give, give is more charidee than charity.

Still, if it makes you feel better about yourself ... except of course you're trying to make yourself feel better about yourself by making other people feel judged worse. Making you definitely not a charitable person. Just judgey.

startail the worse thing was getting the cards in the first place. Jolly cards wishing me a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year and hardly a single one with any acknowledgment of my DD inside.
If the were cancer charity cards at least I felt people had made some effort and perhaps thought about us and what had only just happened.

I know a lot of my bereaved friends feel the same about getting the cards but I can only speak for myself regarding the charity aspect of it.

Reasons I don't buy charity cards:

1. they are usually a difficult shape for posting, and I as post cards all over the world, I would rather they were a more standard shape, more chance of them arriving at their destination.

1. I don't always like the picture on the card

1. I do not feel the need to shout about how I am supporting charity.

I always buy charity chrristmas cards.........in the half price sale.

WhereYouLeftIt- I agree.

OP- don't guilt people about not being as ostentatiously perfect as you. Lots of people are skint, but that doesn't make them selfish. Throughout the year lots of people give at the till (I notice they are including charity donations at point of sale now), through PTA events, through charity boxes on counters, or by donating baby clothes/pet food/canned goods to good causes.

Come Christmas, I would have to spend £30 on cards alone if I set charity cards. That would leave me in dire straits myself. I buy them after Christmas or buy cheaper (but nice) ones in high street shops. DH is out of work at the moment, it's tough going.

If you're so charitable, start by walking a mile in other people's shoes instead of making them feel bad for not meeting your expectations.

We only send cards to people we don't really see, so now a huge number. This year I just sent whatever was left from last year I'm afraid!

Sorry, not a huge number...completely changed meaning!