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AIBU to send the Christmas card back??

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 20/12/2011 17:53

RANT ALERT

As some off you may know as I may have ranted about it before Ex SIL is a first class bitch, I mean she makes Satan look like the Easter bunny, she is a nasty minded, racist, bully who has no joy in life other then making others suffer and I will open the bubbly and dance on her fucking grave when she dies.....

As some of you may also know as I have ranted mentioned about it on here before the last straw was when she said DS1 should have been put down at birth, this was when we got the DX of his special needs that was when I kindly offered to beat seven shades of shit out of her if she came with in smacking distance of me...She is also a coward so has stayed away and as she lives in Devon I do not have to deal with her...BUT she has just sent DSs a Christmas card!!!!!! Love auntie slagface (not her name but what DH and I call her) it is now in two half and will be posted back to the bitch tomorrow!!! How fucking dare she think she has any right to be anything in my children's lives after what she said, as far as we are concerned she is dead (only with out the bubbly and dancing)I have spoken to DH1 and he is 100% with me on this....

How fucking dare she ...... So tempted to phone her and tell her to fuck herself!!!!!!

DS1 (age 15) was upset by it as sadly he knows what she said about him

Dons hard hat and awaits flaming!

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yellowraincoat · 20/12/2011 18:40

Well done, Keep, patting you on the back.

It must be horrible to be her, you're right. If these people would just stop for 5 minutes and swallow their pride, they'd be so much happier.

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 20/12/2011 18:42

Thank you sitandnatter.
And thank you everyone else..... claws back dignity, looks at family and friends who I love and respect and who love and respect me, looks at DSs who bring me so much joy, looks at home not stinking of dog pee and covered in cat hair and remembers I am 10 years younger and at least 4 sizes smaller gives thanks I am not trapped in her life

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HeidiKat · 20/12/2011 18:44

Fucking hell, that is out of order what said about your DS, I would be very tempted to drive to her house and smack her in the mouth. Ignore the card and let her wonder if you even got it, she's not worth the cost of a stamp to send it back.

Takeresponsibility · 20/12/2011 18:47

Shred it and use as cat litter over the Xmas period - every time the cat goes for a pee you will think of her and have a giggle (as will the boys)

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 20/12/2011 18:48

What she said about him was unforgivable but she has said and done a lot of evil things.

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whatstheetiquette · 20/12/2011 18:52

Don't get tangled up with an evil person. Just bin the card.

Becaroooodolf · 20/12/2011 18:52

Facebook = a great tool for cuasing hurt/pain by trouble makers and general wankers

Bin the card.

Forget about her.

The best revenge?? A life well lived.

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 21/12/2011 11:58

Think DS1 is going to delete MIL from his face book

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redlac · 21/12/2011 12:04

I was just going to suggestion that MIL is deleted!

NinkyNonker · 21/12/2011 12:08

Yanbu at all. I would just bin the card, don't acknowledge, don't engage.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 21/12/2011 12:24

Sorry OP, I agree that what what said is unforgiveable BUT I don't see why you need to be petty yourself, dragging yourself down to her level. Have some dignity and cut her out of your lives, no need for the drama or to keep it going. Ditto your 'friends'. Tell them once to stop, if they don't, they go. Not difficult.

BTW the SIL's daughter is a relative of your DS's... bear that in mind when you refer to 'working in Asda', it makes you sound a bit mean.

WhereYouLeftIt · 21/12/2011 12:33

"MIL is on DS1s face book and she stirs a lot, worse since FIL died and MIL went to live near this bitch woman."
Since you've had no contact with her for years, I did wonder what had prompted a Christmas card this year. Could it have been MIL's suggestion of a peace offering? Or, as my conspiracy theory tendencies suggest, could SIL have sent it to prompt you to send it back; so that she could then bleat to MIL and drive a bigger wedge between your family and MIL? Trying to annexe MIL for herself? Do you think she would do that? I'm presuming that you want to maintain a relationship with MIL (or did want to, before she became a Facbook provocateur).

Trills · 21/12/2011 12:41

YABU

Don't send it back.

If you send it back you are getting into a conversation.

Do what you like with it - burn it or bin it or feed it to the dog (don't actually feed it to the dog, it's not good for the dog)

But don't send it back.

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 21/12/2011 13:54

I have no issue with MIL I make sure she gets cards, gifts, photos of the children and so on, although she is a rubbish Grandparent (not that I would ever say anything in front of the children.) I make sure the children always phone her to say thank you for birthday/Christmas cards, she never calls them. When her daughter first moved 200 miles away she used to phone her every Sunday for 2 hours at a time, since she has moved down to live near her daughter she has never once phoned her son or our children.

Twice in the last few months she has traveled over 200 miles to family parties (neither time were her son or grandchildren invited) and neither time did she make the effort to travel the 10 miles from where she was staying to visit her son or our DSs.

I am more then happy to have nothing to do with any of them as they were never nice people, they are the ones losing out not us.

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ElmosChristmasWish · 21/12/2011 14:19

Keep , My SIL is very like yours , the hurt she has caused us is unbelievable tbh but for the last 12 years we have had absolutely nothing to do with her . My children don't even know she exits . It does get easier lovely , just hold your head up high and forget all about her x

GoingForGoalWeight · 21/12/2011 14:25

Revenge is a dish at BEST served freezing cold

I have had the same comment regarding my SN Son, from a so called ex friend.

Do NOT send the card back, ignore the slagevilignorantrunty face :)

Enjoy Christmas with your brilliant DS

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KeepInMindItsAlmostChristmas · 21/12/2011 16:33

Thank you all, DS1 has blocked his Gran from face book.

I shall leave Ex SIL to rot in her own juice and if MIL wants to side with her then she can get knotted too.

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cuteboots · 21/12/2011 16:47

YANBU rip the card up and move on.

nicknamenotinuse · 21/12/2011 16:48

YANBU, I rip a Christmas card up every year I get from my sister who upset me and my family in the same way.

Groovee · 21/12/2011 17:40

Bin the card. Dh's SIL returned the cards I gave her through MIL because they hadn't been delivered personally and then had the cheek to email concerning it. I just binned them and haven't given her a card since.

pigletmania · 21/12/2011 17:43

Just throw it in the bin and try to forget about it.

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