to wish DP's brother and uncle weren't so bloody selfish and annoying

[fiftyval]

Hope this is not too longwinded. DP's 50th at weekend. He sent out invites with time and location of party made it clear what the deal was - we were hiring a hall and providing a band and an 'open-mike/jam' session , drink and some food but were asking people to bring a plate to share ( regular way of doing things with friends, especialy as at this time of year you are never sure how many people will actually come).
As many people were invited from quite a drive away we had also put on invites that we could put up some people but space limited, bring sleeping bags etc.
DP's brother asks if he and his family can stay - fair enough they had about a 2.5-3 hour drive.
Party due to start at 7.30 and we had the hall booked from 6 for setting up ( you pay by the hour). Now, wouldn't normal people plan to turn up at the venue and also realise that there would be alot to organise? Not DP's uncle - he turns up at our house at 4.30 when we are in middle of crucial prep. I don't know what he expected to do with him and he didn't offer to help( not that he would have been any use). To make matters even worse, in the middle of watching us rush around he asks DP to do some photocopying for him ( one of those tiresome round robins) - wtf!!
Meanwhile DP's brother , wife and 2 boys turn up at our house two hours early. Rather than offering to help, they then proceed to embark upon a series of very lengthy showers!! And to make matters worse, were not ready to leave the house when I wanted to be able to feed the dog and settle him before he was left for the evening.
None of them brought any food or drink.
The next morning their 2 boys got up early, woke my brother who was sleeping in the living room and tried to go and wake my dd (12) who was sleeping in. DP ended up getting them breakfast which they demanded ( I was getting dressed). DP's brother and his wife stayed in bed ignoring their kids seeming to think we should look after them. Why - on DP's birthday? But we shouldn't have been surprised as they have done this before.
DP fed up to the back teeth with them. This is a younger brother who DP is constantly being harrassed by his mother to spend time with - I think a few home truths need to be told.
Rant over

Just do not invite them or let them stay again.

So why didn't you? I'd have said my piece at the time, especially if they woke me/my DCs and disrupted my house I am someone who doesn't suffer fuckwittage fools gladly though, or at all come to think of it, so there would have been more than a few home truths flying. It will probably have to come from your DP since it's his side of the family though, or they'll "blame you" for "intrefering" no doubt
Oooo I just noticed they've done it before! Not sure I'd have even invited them again, but if I did I'd have been ready and jumped on them.

Agree with you pom and kelly. The thing is we ddn't exactly invite them to stay - they asked. I wanted to know whether I was somehow in the wrong to expect them to behave like friends do when they stay and whether I was somehow being unfiarly intolerant.
I have been warning DP for a long time that we need to guard against any future visits. He agrees but then his mother starts with the manipulation. She seems to expect DP to take on some sort of responsibility for his arse of a brother which she doesn't expect of DP's sister. The brother is 7 years younger than the others and has been spoilt all his life. He has even managed to get away with inveigling (sp?) thousands of pounds from DP's parents ( which would be a whole other thread.).
I have the joy of Christmas day to be spent with these tossers but at least there will be DP's lovely sister and family to dilute the tension. Merry Christmas