...regarding Christening gift

[laluna]

Nephew's Christening has been organised since about October when we were told of the date by email. I have to request shifts off so this was fine in order for me to make the necessary arrangements.

In November I stumbled upon a gift which wasn't cheap but bought with consideration and love. It is more of a practical, will get lots of use gift, rather than a traditional one and I was pleased with it. Today I receive the official invite with a note saying 'we do not gifts but please make a charity donation to ..... Internet link included'.

So my options are:-

1. respect the fact they don't want a gift so save it and give at a future date

2. acknowledge their request but explain the gift had already been bought and give it as planned?

AIBU to feel a little miffed in being told what to do when I have really tried to be thoughtful?

I would go for option 2

Give it to him for Christmas?

Keep it and give it at someone elses christening? They should have said at initial invite though

Option 2!

option 2.
I think they'll be pleased as fewer people will be buying gifts anyway.

No need to feel miffed - they are only trying to be nice and you acted before official invite. If you feel that miffed don't give anything.

Option 2

Yes, option 2.

I would do option 2 but understand their request - dd1 got 5 money boxes!

1. If they are decent, normal people they'll be fine with it

Well it's not difficult, is it? You just phone them up and say, "Gosh, I wish you'd said you wanted donations. I've just been out and bought a gift." That's all, isn't it?

Yes, Option 2 but can you not return it to the shop?