Babysitters bringing "friend"-said yes Aibu?

[Molehillmountain]

Very sensible girl-I imagine it's her boyfriend, children asleep and her mum just up the road. Okay? First time we've had this so just putting it over to the wisdom of mumsnet!

YANBU Might be just a friend but either way if she's sensible and you trust her why not? It'll be company for her.

If you know the girl well, trust her and she's sensible I'd say it sounds fine. How old is she btw?

Of course it is, but I expect you will get many posts telling you that you are BU and a crap parent because if you let the babysitter bring a friend/boyfriend your children will be neglected and thus traumatised for life...

Your choice. Just don't be like that weird AIBU thread with the cameras everywhere filming te babysitter and her boyfriend shagging... that was creepy.

Yuck! No such technological grandeur or need/want to do that! I mean if it's her boyfriend they'll be aware it's our house and we could come home any time. And she'd be mortified! On reflection I think it's good there are two of them-no emergency anticipated but one with child and one going/phoning for help seems ideal.

She's fifteen nearly sixteen with mum, who I know and trust, a nurse two doors up.

I always used to let ours bring her boyfriend (he was the son of another friend though, so I knew him). I just made sure we opened the front door really loudly when we got back so they knew we were home.

does her mum know? that would be my only concern, that I was agreeing to something that her own mum wouldn't approve of...

I used to babysit[ aged 14 -18] - in 40s now. Was a very responsible babysitter - but when boyfriend came round.. mucho snogging when kids in bed.
ALWAYS had ear out for kids and door though!!

If you trust her enough to look after your kids (which you obviously do) then I imagine she's the sensible type.

I used to babysit a lot when I was 14/15 and was the definition of sensible.

by the time I was 24/25 - not so much

I had teenage babysitters and they brought a friend. All went well :)

YANBU to try and see how it goes.

Sorry to hijack, but I want to defend myself against the poster who said I was 'creepy'.

I never filmed my babysitter! An outside cctv camera filming the back garden captured the babysitter on camera - so no, there weren't cameras 'everywhere', and it didn't capture them doing anything. That thread was blown totally out of hand and made me out to be a massive pervert.

Sorry, I just needed to make sure the facts are known.

My dd always takes a girl friend when she babysits. Can't understand why- it means she has to split the money, but she'd rather do that than spend the evening on her own!

All was well! Friend either didn't come or arrived after we left and was gone before we were home. No sure she'd have managed three choc muffins so I believe the latter. Jane Fonda that sounds much more feasible! No awake children either and first time in ages dd1 hasn't minded a sitter so this one's a keeper! Thanks for the mumsnet handholding-I'm rubbish when my plans get changed last minute.

I'd interview other babysitters so you have at least 2 to ask in future :)

Glad went well.

Glad all went well :)