to not want to get Christmas cards addressed to "mam"?

[SenseofEntitlement]

I come from Lancashire and DD1 was born there. DH comes from the north east, but spent most of his life also living in Lancashire. We moved here two and a half years ago, and we mostly still have our Lancashire accents, although bits of Geordie are creeping in to the DDs and DHs speech.

Now, I like local dialect, especially Geordie. I find it warm, friendly and interesting. However...

DD1 is four and is in reception. I have always taught her to call me Mummy, she has picked up calling me Mum as she thinks it is more grown up, but still mostly calls me Mummy. She learned to spell Mummy as one of her first words, well before she started school. So why is she suddenly bringing home pictures and Christmas cards where she has written "mam"?

What's next? "Whey aye" in the spelling tests?

Am I going to have to start a bilingual policy of speaking Lancashire at home and Geordie at school? (Don't get me started on the bits of Mackem she is picking up)

Disgraceful.

Everyone knows that mams are better than mums.

YABU

I'm a Geordie my mum hated to be called mam too, so at school we referred to her as mam with all our friends and to her face she was mum.

When talking about her to my brothers and sisters she is always "me mam".

I'm Geordie and always use mum and address my mum as 'mum', DH uses Mam and it makes knowing whose card is whose easier.

I don't mind ether way but I would object to a card using 'MA' which is commonly in use here.

Isn't Mam Lancashire too though? It is definitely Yorkshire (although a bit common )

Mam is definately lancashire. I am from there, and although I didnt say it, most of my friends did, and my own parents used it for their parents.

Most people round us in East Yorkshire said mam... Not us though. My mum has always been mummy/mum because she thinks mam is common

I'm from West Yorks where it is generally Mum but where Mam is also used. Like alicia I usually addressed my mother as Mum but would use Mam sometimes when talking to friends or my sister about her. I think I always used Mum in cards but my Dad (also from W. Yorks) would use Mam to my gran. The children always call me Mum but we're darn sarth now. I don't think I would mind either way to be honest.

Just pretend to yourself that you're the queen :) A plastic tiara may help.

Mackem Mams are better. But yanbu as I'm hacked off with nursery for telling her a dummy is a dodie. God knows what is next, a Greggs addiction?!

Eskarina Your mum sounds very like mine! We were from North Lincolnshire, which is not really that far from East Yorks. When I was a kid my Mum's sister lived next door and she had 4 DS who all called her "Mam". My Mum was appalled and told us not to ever call her that - she was Mum.

I always called my daughter's dummy a dodie. I didn't realise it was a regional thing. Where does that come from?

Not sure actually. I assumed it was regional and DH who is Irish has never heard it called that.

I'm a Mam - both written down and woken - always have been
It's impossible to whine 'mam' - not like muuuuuum....

spoken

We always had dodies too (in Leeds). Think it is regional though as we don't have them here and my DH doesn't know what I'm on about (nothing new there!).

Hmm, curiouser and curiouser. I probably picked it up from my parents, they both said it but I don't know which one was the instigator. My dad Irish and my mum was born and grew up in Manchester.

I'm from South Yorkshire and we never said or heard "Mam", it was always "Mum"

We live down South now but I'd be insisting on Mum too if it was an option. My DC's are still little enough to call me Mummy at the moment though

We're English and quite plummy. MY 5yo goes to an international school and has quite the American accent.

Waader for water.

Mom or Marm instead of Mummy.

Glidd'RRR with a big rolling RRR at the end - glitter.

Oh, and everything is Ossum.

I'm Irish and here we mostly say mam/mammy.

We also always say dodie for the most part. Never ever dummy!

YANBU I wouldn't like to get a card saying Mum so completely understand it!

I have all this to come. I recently moved from the East to the North and there is a fair mix of Geordie and Mackem here. My accent is generic Southern, as is the accent DS1&2 speak with but since DS3 (3months) will be growing up here I am expecting accent conflict. The older boys are old enough that saying Mum is likely to stick with them, but while I like the way Mam sounds for other people (indeed my mil is DP's Mam) it isn't a term I can see being applied to me.

The dodie thing mostly amuses me. I can't help but get a mental picture of a tiny effigy of the Harrod's owners son being used to pacify infants.

I loved 'me mam' and Mummy still sounds a bit posh and southern to me-not all warm and homely like Mammy or Mam.
Anyway the correct address for the Queen is ,'Mam' I believe.

I'm welsh, and call my mother "Mam". Unless I want something. Then it's "Motherrrrrrrr" or "Mummmmmmmmmmy".

I'm a Geordie, but my two call me mum. I don't really have an accent though and neither do the dcs.

"Me Mam" is a lovely phrase though and sounds so cosy. Reminds me of Catherine Cookson stories

I'm Welsh & I'm a mam. I hate "mum" TBH.

I'm still Mama...but I'll be insisting on Mam. they use Mum round here but I just don't think I like it for me