To wash DD's cup after every use without being told I'm getting OCD...

[Sookeh]

Incredibly trivial I know but DH thinks IABU.

I wash DD's (3) cup after every use. She has several of the Disney store type ones with the straw. She's quite thirsty most of the time so she has quite a lot of drinks every day. DH has been just refilling it all day and washing it night.
He thinks I'm being slightly obsessive compulsive and as I have manic depression he worries that this as well as my very frequent handwashing mean I'm heading down that path.
Help settle this disagreement please :)

What is in the cup? If it is water, then YABU....I rinse it now and then but wouldn't be over fussy...I have a 3 year old too....if its juice or milk then YANBU

It depends if you are giving it a quick rinse, or thoroughly washing it each time.

If it is just water or weak juice, then no need I would say to really wash it, just refill is fine.

I'd say the frequent hand washing is something to keep an eye on....far more than the cup washing. If you were that bothered about cup germs, you wouldn't have bought one with a straw as they're impossible to clean with a 'normal' wash.

well.. i wouldn't wash a cup every single time no.

You don't have to wash a cup after each use.

At some point I'd give it a wash, but not after each use, and I don't think there's a mathematical formula for when!

HHmmmm am slightly on the fence i will fill my dd's also 3 up once maybe even twice with a quick rinse inbetween but i dont thinnk uabu i am prob slightly lazy

This prob doesnt help - sorry

It sounds like YABU OP... or dare I say it a little OCD...are we talking a full on wash here? With liquid and scrubbing?

Once a day seems fine to me unless the cup has milk in it. I think washing after every use is a bit OTT, personally.

Thanks everyone, sorry for the slightly silly thread. I'm just wondering whether it's symptomatic of something bigger now though.

And yes, full on wash with soap and scrubbing

My hands are raw all of the time.

Ooh Sookeh sorry about the flippant reply! I never realsed you were worrying about this for valid reasons!

Well have you been to speak to the doctor about this?

Milk - full wash. Juice, rinse out. Unless it is smeared with food debris from the meal.

Poor hands.

Does it like really bother you that he doesnt??

In that case, your DH is right to be concerned. You really dont need to be so full on at all. Kids need germs, they build up immunity to help them fight off the bigger bugs. Honestly :) and so do you!

It does bother me, but he won't give in because he's worried it's part of a bigger problem and thinks "giving in" to it will make it worse.

I have twice weekly therapy sessions but am avoiding mentioning it because of how many other issues there are to deal with.

It's ok to be flippant it was a bit of a silly thread to start but just wanted some other opinions.

I have OCD and I don't wash the DDs cup up each time!

They have a clean AnyWayUp Cup for bed with water in it and a open cup if they have milk (clean one each time) but squash or water beakers during the day just get refilled unless there is backwash.

If you think you might be developing an 'issue' with your DD's cup try not washing but refilling (assuming not refilling a milk cup with squash - blergh!).

How does that make you feel? Panicky, dread, sense of wrongness, horrid urge to go and wash it up or else something bad might happen?

If so ask at your next MH appt for an assessment for OCD-type behaviours. CBT is great for helping with OCD - I thoroughly recommend it.

DC just turned 4 has milk to drink first thing so when he wants a drink later he gets a clean cup for water/juice. If he has a cup of juice or water and wants more, I don't wash it, if he wants milk then he gets a new cup, and vice versa. Wouldn't wash out the cup.

It does make me feel panicky actually, and a bit nauseous

god i feel loads better reading this, i use to wash ds's cup out after every wash, he has several cups so i'd just get a clean one out, its only recently i've started just rinsing it out inbetween drinks and ds is 3

yanbu just because it sounds like it is part of a bigger picture. I agree with your DH that "giving in" adds to it. I had a slight problem years back about locking doors. A friend of mine advised me to check it once and walk away with a firm "I have checked it". It didn't develop but I believe it could have very easily. Please do tell your therapist as that is what you are seeing them for! All the best.

At the risk of being a bossy so and so - get thee to your therapist and ask for a referral to CBT. The sooner you nip this in the bud the There is lots of help for people with OCD, you just have to ask.

The trouble with OCD is that you think you can control things and if you just do X it will be ok, when you can't do X, you feel panicky and anxious as though some how everything will go wrong.

Do you catastrophise? This is a real example from my brain - If I walk down that path then I will let go of the pram, if I let go of the pram then it will roll in to the road, if it rolls into the road that will happen at exactly the same time as a lorry turning the corner, the pram will be hit and DD will be killed and it will be all my fault for not going down the nice wide path and instead choosing the narrow path. I have a nice brain.....

Up to you! I don't bother though dd cups just get chucked into the late afternoon/dinner wash.

The panic and the raw hands does sound a little ominous. I would definitely speak to someone sooner rather than later. We are currently dealing with similar issue in our house and it is difficult to get the right balance. But then if it wasnt difficult then it would be easy to kick OCD habits and it isnt...def nip in bud where possible...