AIBU to think she should have called back so I can relax?

[elinorbellowed]

We went to meet family two hours away yesterday and I left my phone behind on charge. Didn't go back for it as DP had his.
Got back eightish and once DC in bed checked messages. Dropped call on the landline. Two missed calls on mobile. Voice mail message on mobile from best friend. Sounding very stressed. Could I go to her new house on Monday to take delivery of a fridge. Between 12.45 and 4.45? She doesn't move in until Wednesday, so it would mean taking two small children to a completely unfurnished unheated house for possibly five hours. On the first day of their holiday, when I have a lot of cooking and cleaning to do. Obviously, I didn't want to do it, but I didn't say that. I called and left a message asking if it could be delivered to my house, stored in our garage and we would take it to theirs when they moved in.
She hasn't called back. I don't know if I have to do this favour tomorrow, or if a fridge is going to turn up at my house. Or if she is annoyed that I didn't have my phone on me yesterday. Or if she doesn't believe that I left my phone behind? Would it have killed her to send a text telling me it was sorted one way or another, so that I didn't have to worry?
Yes, I know I'm ranting.....

Yes, the right thing to do would be for her to at least send a brief message saying either yes & thanks or no, it's ok I've got something else sorted now.

If I were you I would text her a message now saying as I haven't heard back I assume you've got something else sorted.

And don't worry about ranting....I would be too!

Maybe she left her phone at home on charge and hasnt checked it yet.. :)

Or perhaps she managed to sort someone else out to be able to do it and has forgotten to ring you back.

I would try ringing her again and if no answer, assume she got someone else to do it, and then not worry about it.

I would be feeling as you are, but maybe she's trying to see if she can get someone else to do it before replying.

As it's Sunday evening it wouldn't be ureasonable to presume that as you haven't heard she has made alternative arrangements.

However, if you will spend all night worrying (I would), or if you presume she doesn't want you and then feel obliged if you get an angst call tomorrow saying she thought you were helping out, call her.

I would send her a text saying that you have tried to get hold of her to find out what her response was to your original text but as you haven't heard anything back you assume that she has made alternative arrangements and doesn't need you tomorrow so you'll be doing the stuff you originally planned.

If she does need you it is now up to her to get back to you ASAP.

She is the one that wants a favour doing so she should at least let you know whats happening especially since its your children that could possibly be sat in a cold house. I would personally call say your not being funny but you need to know whats happening by tonight if not your going to make plans with your kids.

Thank you for sensible advice ladies. I have sent a friendly text saying "As I haven't heard I'm assuming you got tomorrow sorted. Hope you're not too stressed. elinor x"

Maybe I'm unduly irritated by this, but I just think it's bad manners to ask for a fairly big favour and then ignore attempts made to fulfil it.

ring back and say you are guessing she has made other arrangments but that if she does need you to say in to recieve item then please let me know b4 9 tomorrow

well done - just read your post