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to have a short rant about ex's latest Crap Present for DD?

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 18/12/2011 19:35

DD is 8 and her dad has a long history of sending her utterly shit presents.

She had the Argos catalogue the year she was 2. Not a lot of things from the Argos catalogue, just the catalogue. He told her it was 'a book'. I thought maybe he was just being an arse because it was the first Christmas after he'd left us and, well, he was generally being an arse at the time.

Then the next year he got her a box of Quality Street.

The next year, when she was 4, he got her a faux leather pillow with fake fur trim, that said Wild Thing on it in sequins and played the tune when you squeezed it. I think I started an outraged thread on it at the time.

Then there were a few years of his mum buying expensive things and wrapping them up and saying they were from him.

However this year he has fallen out with his mum (I suspect he has got yet another younger woman pregnant - 3 kids and counting so far) and so we are back to his own shitty efforts.

A 29p card (price sticker on the back).... and a packet of 3-for-£1-or-39p-each* strawberry laces stuffed in the envelope. I shit you not. That is what arrived in the post for her. I guess the other two packets went to his other two children, eh.

I mean why bother??? Nothing says I-couldn't-be-arsed like that, does it, even to an 8 yo that idolises him.

The big wanky wanker

*I should point out that the cost is neither here nor there but for fucks sake, you might want to put just the tiniest bit of effort into the choice! I mean he could've spent 39p in a second hand shop and got something that would've meant more and been chosen specially for her.

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 18/12/2011 20:33

Skint? Hahahahaaaa. He gets benefits, has a job on the side, and has parents who subsidise him heavily. He just has odd priorities.

And really, don't get me wrong, the cost of the gifts is irrelevant - I've bought DD things she has loved for 20p off the car boot. Its the total lack of thought that goes into them. I mean, have you seen the Fugly Pillow? WTactualF?

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BaublesandCuntingCarolSingers · 18/12/2011 20:36

He is a fully paid-up member of the wanker brigade.

Do you want me to nut him for you?

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 18/12/2011 20:37

Skint - I bet he's not so skint he can't take the latest in a long line of young girls out for a drink. Fucking pathetic - a packet of strawberry laces for his 8yo DD. Absolute disgrace. Even if he only spent a pound on a bottle of nail polish or something in poundland at least it would have shown a bit of thought and effort.

I am surprised his mother hasn't still sent a present 'from her Dad' otherwise she's as bad as he is. It's not DD's fault they have fallen out, so to just stop doing it is cruel to DD and doesn't really affect her DS :(

Still - thank fuck you got out when you did - can you imagine what life with this twonk would have been like?? urgh.

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 18/12/2011 20:47

Bupcakes I simply cannot allow you to nut every fucker who crosses me, kind though it is of you to offer

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pigletmania · 18/12/2011 21:13

I would pull him up on that, and tell him that the presents are crap and that he has to do better next time. What a knob, I am at the list of 'presents' that he has given your dd.

NewBikeForChristmas · 18/12/2011 21:35

Not wanting to side with your ecast or anything, but DS loved the Argos catalogue when he was 2.

RomanChristingle · 18/12/2011 21:51

I was going to come on here and say YABU and that you should always be grateful for any presents...
but then I read the op and YANBU - they are some shit presents!

Yeah a 2 yr old probably would love the Argos catalogue. DD used to love flyers that came through the door at that age - I never considered giving her them for Christmas though

ThePathanKhansWitch · 18/12/2011 21:52

I hope his cock drops off for christmas. It must be so hard for you to pass this

thoughtless shite onto your DD, like you say, it's the sheer 'meh' thats hurtful,

but your doing the right thing, when she's a grown woman, "I always sent you

presents but your mum wouldn't give them to you" won't be part of the

narrative.Fuck him, you and your girl have a lovely Christmas.

dietstartstmoz · 18/12/2011 21:58

Total wankery wanker. Are you in touch with his mum or any of his family. If so do you tell them what a useless fucker he is. Some sperm donors are useless fuckers. Just breathe deeply and store it in your mind, for when you need to tell her what a useless gobshite her dad is (in about 10 yrs time, I'm sure you will have lots more anecdotes by then).
Unbelieveably appalling.

Rise above it and have a lovely christmas with your DD.

A1980 · 18/12/2011 22:00

Why the outrage?! It isnt exactly offensive. It's bit crass but it isn't as if he bought her porn dvd's and most 4 year olds like musical stuff.

Following the divorce when I was about 4, my father never sent me a fucking card for Christmas or birthday. I shit you not.

RomanChristingle · 18/12/2011 22:01

I think you should get him a present next year op. Maybe a bus timetable? Or one of those charity biros you get in the post?

Jemma1111 · 18/12/2011 22:32

Wow, I never in a million years would have thought theres a man on this planet who is more of a tight arsed bastard than my ex is when it comes to buying his kids presents!, but to be honest your ex makes mine look like Mr Generous!

I just hope you manage to get maintenance off him, I imagine he does'nt bother with that either

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QueenOfFlamingEverything · 18/12/2011 22:44

A1980 - you clearly haven't seen Fugly Pillow. It would not be out of place in a cheap 'massage parlour'. It was less musical than, um, growly...

Roman - along the lines of the Durseley's presents to Harry? Hmm....

And yes, I get maintenance - a whole £2.50 a week!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 18/12/2011 22:51

he is a knob.
be glad he is your ex.

would you like me to taser him for you? point him out...

(do i need to tell anyone that that was a joke?)

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andaPontyinaPearTreeeeee · 18/12/2011 23:15

Twat. Yanbu

BertieBotts · 18/12/2011 23:17

Aw, I wanted to see the fugly pillow :( Link doesn't work though (just loads forever)

XP didn't even acknowledge DS's birthday this year. I await his (non) Christmas contribution with bated breath

Fecklessdizzy · 18/12/2011 23:25

He's a tosser of the first order, but sooner or later he'll catch Creeping Knob Rot off one of his conquests and serve him right ... You're better off without him and his crap pressies ( and at least you don't have to worry about him turning your DD's head with expensive gifties )

festi · 18/12/2011 23:28

pretty shitty, I would be more upset it arrived via the post, at least if he was to be spending time with dd and gave it to her, she may have the oppertuninty to appreciate it more.

Thought my ex was shit an minimal effort gifts, he always adds few £20's to what he paid.

He got dd age 5 but the size of a big 7 yr old a toddlers desk , we did discuss a desk but seriously I was thinking a desk she would get some use out of, she looks like alice in woderland sitting at it insisting her knees will fit if she straitens her legs.

I did say it seemed a bit small, and not sure she would get more than a years use out of it. He said she better get more than that it cost me 80 fucking quid. I did say for that he could probably have got something that would at leat see her through primary school its no wonder he hates me . I seen it in the range for £30 the very next day.

I would pull him up on this if I where you.

BaronessBomburst · 18/12/2011 23:34

DS would LOVE the Argos catalogue!

Spuddybean · 18/12/2011 23:38

sorry to say DP and i have been laughing at the outrageously dreadful gifts.

what a knobsack!

I know that's not helpful. I would have to say something to him about it though, something along the lines of 'wtf was that pile of turd you gave to our daughter? have you banged your head and woken up in a reverse alternate universe where the less effort you show makes you a more thoughtful person, you utter dickcheese' (what dp called him)

hiddenhome · 18/12/2011 23:48

ds1 got a pair of socks for his 13th birthday from his father

GoingForGoalWeight · 19/12/2011 01:01

Here's what you could have had! Re- the Argos catologue.

My Son has had ZERO for the last seven years, not even a card....:(

imaginethat · 19/12/2011 01:34

It's crappy and I'm not surprised you feel upset.

My ex gives the children nothing for birthdays or Christmas. He pays child support (not in UK) and he says that covers everything.

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