to request that only clothes that need washing are put in the laundry bin?

[samandi]

I do the vast majority of washing in our house (as I'm home more often), and DP has this irritating habit of putting clothes that he's worn but doesn't want washed in the laundry bin. He seems to expect me to text him every time I do a load of washing to ask if he wants this and that washed.

AIBU?

Don't wash his clothes. Simple.

If something has been thrown into the dirty laundry, surely it will then smell and need washing.

And if he doesnt want it washed, then he doesnt put it in there.. I would expect a five year old to understand the concept of a laundry bin.

If I were you, I would remove ALL his clothes and leave them in a pile by his side of the bed. I wouldnt wash any of it.

if it is in the washing basket just wash it without asking. that'll learn him.

Cailin - I think that's what I'm going to try.

RealiTree - yes, exactly.

squeakytoy - that's what I thought, and I thought that's what most people did ...

mousy - tried that, but it seems a complete waste of time and energy.

Go and buy him his own lovely laundry basket for Christmas :)

Give him his own basket for Christmas (romantic present eh?). One where he can put his "worn but doesn't need washing" stuff

Then let him do all his own clothes.

Oh Cailin x posts

great minds eh?

Does he have a sort of musty, stale whiff about him..?? you would expect that if he wears stuff that has been festering in amongst dirty underwear and socks...

squeaky - fortunately not that I've noticed :-), and in many ways he's ultra obsessive about cleanliness. this particular issue just doesn't make any sense

Have you asked him why he puts clean clothes in the basket? It does seem a very weird thing to do, especially as he then expects you to sift through it all and know what needs to be washed and what doesn't

Cailin - yes, I've asked him. It seems that it's just what he's always done, and it's neater than having piles of clothes lying around ...

YANBU. My DH does this too, and it's taken a good 15 years of co-habiting to get him to see that it might be neater, but when there is more than one person doing the washing it's not at all practical.

Bizarrely, the clothes don't smell; I assume its because with a family of four nothing stays in the washing basket very long.

So now his irritating habit is to "tidy" non-clothes items into the laundry basket. Am tempted to wash his ipod the next time I find it in there......

Tell him to do his own washing in future. He sounds odd

ID definitely stop doing his washing.

My kids do this, it makes me want to drink gin and cry. And I dont even like gin.

Ok, so clean clothes are in the cupboard/drawers and dirty clothes go in the laundry basket. Where do worn once clothes go? You have to just have a system. Coz he knows he cant put them back in the drawer. Get him a chair, clothes stand or towel rail thingy that you can put worn once or not dirty clothes on. I have a chair in my room, which always has a mish mosh of worn but not dirty clothes. Iyswim

I would go with them making him do his own washing idea then! Even my 2 year old understands when clothes are dirty they go in the wash basket!