to not tell DH about a teenage fling

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DH has a new friend (met through DD's nursery) that I was at school with.

We had a bit of a fling when we were about 15. Nothing major.

Do I mention it or not? On the one hand, it's no big deal and wasn't even at the time, so feels like it would be making a bigger deal of it than it was.

On the other hand, deliberately not saying feels dishonest. If we end up becoming better friends with this couple I will feel awkward.

I didn't sleep with him or anything

I would say 'I used to snog him', it's not like it's a big deal, I'm sure your dh wouldn't be at all bothered

Tell him. DH will be the only one not knowing and that would make him feel daft the other chap mentions it. Tell him you have nothing to hide.

What's the problem with just saying you had a bit of a teenage fling which didn't mean anything and you didn't sleep with him?
It's not a big deal and I don't think it would sound like one, put like that

Maybe you're right. But DH and I were very young when we got together so our 'lists' aren't actually very long. It's not like there were hundreds of snogs in between.

I would have immediately said "hahaha, I snogged him when we were at school"...

Does your husband know that you already know this bloke?

A teenage romance is hardly a fling either.

I'd tell him but make a joke out of it so he understands that it is no big deal.

Also,if this guy does mention it to your dh, it might then seem a bigger thing than it was, because it may look like you're being secretive. Better to just casually mention it first so that if the guy ever says anything, your dh can just say, aw yes, she mentioned that, sweet! Etc

You are right, of course.

I'm over thinking.

What squeaky said.

Just laugh and say you snogged him
a few times.

Yes, make it a bit of a joke - way back when, you snogged this bloke a couple of times, hee hee. Unless your H is a complete knob, he is unlikely to be remotely bothered.
FWIW my parents' social circle have mostly known each other for about 60 years and there are still occasional lighthearted references to the fact that A-who's-married-to-B used to go to the tennis club dances with C-who's-married-to-D.

Bloody hell, DH and I have a circle of friends that go back to teenage years (and beyond)

At one time, most of them were snogging each other on almost rota basis

It must surely have been the absolute norm a few decades ago, when people generally didn't move away from the place they grew up in and spent their teens checking each other out before committing to one of their social circle. I think it's perhaps less common these days simply because more people move around and meet a larger pool of people to choose longterm partners from, that's why it might seem a bit wierd to the OP.

I thought from the thread title that you were having an affair with a teenager now behind your husbands back. That would have been more interesting

Me too, Matt.

FFs why would something that happened when you were a teenager have any impact now.

Sounds you need something to worry about, why not try global warming

We know loads a few people who I have snogged in the past..just don't make it bigger than it was.

Wouldn't personally mention it, but that's because most of my male friends unfortunately come into that category. I blame New Year's Eve when we used to have snogging competitions

Oh gosh yes, tell him - "we went out when we were kids! all very innocent, you know".
Seems far weirder if it comes out later between them over a beer. It's bound to come out somehow!

In this situation, yes, i'd bring it up in a joking way.