To have left ds to cry?

[Moulesfrites]

Ooh I feel terribly guilty. We have justbcome back from a week away. I woke up this morning with terrible diarrhoea (sorry) and have had it all day. Been feeling achey and lethargic for a few days and dh was sick a couple if nights ago so we have obviously picked something up.

Anyway, tonight is dh's Xmas night out. I felt rotten and we have 11 mo ds, but there was no way i could ask him not to go out as this is literally his only night out of the year. but it did mean I had to give ds his tea, bath him and put him to bed whilst enduring stomach cramps and making several trips to the loo.

Anyway, ds went down at 7 and by 8 had woken up 3 times, resettled with a cuddle. The fourth time he woke up I decided to give him calpol as thought maybe he was coming down with whatever we have had and it is unusual for him to be so unsettled early in the evening. This was a bit of a farce as he was writhing everywhere, i was trying to hold him with one hand and open and pour the cal pol with the other, and ended up spilling half of it, still having stomac cramps.

Then, I decided I would bring him into bed with me, but seeing as it was only 9 pm I wasn't ready so I had to try and put my pjs on. I left him in his cot when I did this, then needed the loo again. He was screaming, it was awful, and I have never ever left him to cry and always said I never would, even though he is a fairly crap sleeper. But by the time I had got off the loo he had stopped crying and has been asleep since. Wwyd in this situation? Really hate the thought that I left him screaming especially when he might be ill.

You can't do anything if you're on the loo. Is there someone you can call to come and help you? Remember to drink lots.

It's fine, don't worry about it.

If he needed you or was ill he wouldn't have fallen asleep so quickly.

Get some rest, hope you feel better soon.

sometimes you just have to let them cry if you need to do something urgently - at least he is asleep now (hopefully he stays asleep so you can get some rest yourself!)

You did what you had to do at the time. Don't feel guilty. Your DS fell asleep in (what seems like) a matter of minutes. He might be coming down with something or he might just have wanted a cuddle. Either way he is asleep now.
If it helps I would have done exactly the same and I dislike leaving my DC to cry too but when you have diarrhoea you don't exactly have alot of choice.
Look after yourself and make sure your DH takes over tomorrow to help you recover.

This was out of your control, so please please dont feel bad about it and there is no way your ds will be affected. Try and get some rest yourself and stop worrying.

At a guess he was screaming as in a grump you had put him down, hence him falling to sleep. IME if crying due to upset they just work themselves up and become hysterical - not nod off.

That sounds as though I frequently leave my children screaming to determine whether they are cross or not - I don't I promise

Of course he is fine, he has fallen asleep - maybe you don't always need to pick him up the minute he cries? Hope you are feeling better yourself.

I would never leave an (possibly) ill baby to cry it out.

Unless I was too busy shitting my brains out to go get him. I can't see under the circumstances you had any other options. I would see if someone can come round to help though for the rest of the night

OK, I can guarantee you it won't have done him any harm - I bet you a fiver that when he wakes up he'll greet you with a big beaming smile and a hug :) Don't be hard on yourself, it couldn't be helped.

If it's any consolation, I never ever left my DS1 to cry - DS2, however, has had to stay in his cot crying on several occasions when his older brother needed my attention. He's the happiest, sunniest baby in the world at 14 months, so I'm pretty sure your little boy will be fine!

Hope you feel better soon - it's rubbish being ill & having sole responsibility.

You are allowed to go to the toilet!

Well that's what I tell my lot anyway. And he managed to settle himself too. Relax while you can.

There is not really anything else you could have done.

I forgot to switch the baby monitor on one night and felt terrible later when I saw DS's little tear stained face.

Don't worry about it. Hope you feel better soon

and best not to have him in bed with you if you need to have several trips to the loo - good move there.

hope you get better - nothing worst than D&V, with or without the V, with no support. I remember crawling on my hands and knee up and downs the stairs to DD's room. Not nice.