to want to cancel lunch tomorrow as other person has 'nasty virus'?

[duvetdayplease]

I never never know what to do in these circs. Am supposed to be meeting someone for lunch, they've been ill, asked how they are. Told me they have a really nasty virus but should be able to make it to lunch.

I want to cancel - I don't want my crew to get ill. Is this something people do - cancel to avoid getting things? Or is it only sickly Jane Austen characters who try to hide from the lurgy? I don't really know what the virus is so I could be being a twat.

I always cancel if someone has the lurgy, why would I want their horrible bug? I thinks its very rude to casually transmit one's virus to others.

cansel, if you are worried, and just explain, no friend is going to object, surly, although the time your friend was most infectious/contageious, is likely to have been before she knew she was ill

I'd cancel, but mostly because they should be putting their feet up if they're feeling like shite.

God, I wish I'd been given the option. Finally got rid of cold dd had been fighting for what felt like months, go to visit friend with same age baby/toddler to find him wheezing and streaming green snot, having been off nursery all week being looked after by friend's Mil who was now bed ridden. Apparently the parents had had no sleep all week cause of it.

Errr, thanks for warning me, dd now has it.

Pfb rant over

See i'd cancel too. But phrase it in a way which made it sound like I was just thinking of them "noo,we can rebook for another time, why don't you stay at home and get better and not pass your horrible lurgy to me you bastard"

Thanks all, I often get nervous about seeming rude but after the run of colds we've had I just can;t face yet another! So I've suggested a rescheduled meet up, hoping she feels better soon. Poor duck!

We've all got/had the lurgy for weeks. DS2 ended up in hospital with it. I'm afraid if anyone dares reinfect us the red mist will descend.....

People should be more responsible and less selfish. DH has ischemic heart disease,takes medication for stable chronic heart failure and has limited lung function. So people are told not to come near if they have been ill as something like this could put him in hospital or even kill him. If someone ignored these wishes they would not be allowed to enter our home.

Cancel. I always warn people if someone is poorly and give them the option.

text and insist they rest as they seem very ill still and you can't risk catching/spreading illness.

My daughter has been ill on and off for months. I have always told people prior to our meet and given them the choice of cancelling. I think it is not fair to expect people to still want to visit if you are contagious.

YANBU

If I had anything contagious I'd cancel, I tell my friends to keep away and not visit if they contagious too. Might seem a bit harsh but I don't want their bugs thanks.

Cancel. You'd be gutted if you all ended up ill over Christmas especially.

I've got a nasty virus at the moment and was invited out with friends yesterday morning. I declined due to being potentially infectious, but they insisted it was fine so I went. I hope I haven't infected them just in time for Christmas (I did douse myself liberally with tea tree oil).

YANBU at all - I would always warn someone if I was ill and give them the option to reschedule.