to go out from 8am till 4pm for the next week??

[MaryPoppinsMagic]

we do not speak to my MIL (dp's mum) it was his choice to cease all contact a few months ago, she is toxic and very very nasty oh and I forgot sneaky!

She has a habit of turned up at our door when its just me home to give presents / cards / ambush me to see dd, I think she does this as dp will tell her where to go and freeze then panic when she shows up.

It is inevitable that in the week before christmas she will show up with some kind of tat present for dd, she did it last year when things were very strained between us all and literally launched the thing at me.
This year I intend on being prepared, I have a few ideas so I:

A) go out between 8am + 4pm so I won't be in and if she comes after 4 dp will be here to confront refuse the gift

B) chance that she will turn up and be ready with a speech prepared - along the lines of 'oh you know dp doesn't want you being here so please do fuck off leave?

C) never answer the door just incase? This could prove awkward due to mindees being dropped off!

Bloody hell she sounds terrible - poor you! I don't know what to suggest but you have my sympathies.

(I opened this thinking it was about not wanting to be in the house during the week of hell that is having excited DC off school the week before Christmas)

Now that you have explained, I can fully understand why you dont want or need her in your lives!

She does sound horrid. But I still think a brief organised visit would be better than worrying about when she might turn up especially as you'll have your mindees there too.

Wow, she really is toxic isnt she.
Do NOT answer the door under any circumstances.
Do you have a spy hole and door chain?
If not get your DH to fit them for you.

that she said that she would make sure you never saw your DD again.

ghoul hell will freeze over before we have a 'brief organised visit' with her. Would you organise a visit with someone like what I described her putting us through?

ghoul hell will freeze over before we have a 'brief organised visit' with her. Would you organise a visit with someone like what I described her putting us through?

For starters, you cannot spend every day denied the comfort of your own home and for sure, you cannot drag the children that you mind out into some sort of forced exile. If I were the parents of those children I'd take a very dim view of your capability to care for them properly. So you could jeopardise your role as a childminder.

I think, given the nastiness of what has gone on, that if your MIL turns up you have to say that you cannot let her in but that if she wishes to leave presents you will make sure the dcs get them. Don't have a confrontation but stick to your guns.

Pandemoniaa

I honestly am not that stupid that I would drag my mindees out all day!!

I started this thread in a light hearted way to make fun of an awful situation. Please don't mistake my humour for ignorance because I am perfectly capable to look after children, I would never compromise them or their well being.

The thread has got to personal so I'm going to ask mnhq to make it go poof as I didn't want it to become an enquiry to my skills as a cm or anything but light hearted

Pandemoniaa

I honestly am not that stupid that I would drag my mindees out all day!!

I started this thread in a light hearted way to make fun of an awful situation. Please don't mistake my humour for ignorance because I am perfectly capable to look after children, I would never compromise them or their well being.

The thread has got to personal so I'm going to ask mnhq to make it go poof as I didn't want it to become an enquiry to my skills as a cm or anything but light hearted

this is the very reason MIL doesnt know where we live now, (your mil, sounds like mine)

i wouild go out as i dont like all the angry stuff she throws at us,

do want you think is the best, xx