ex boyfriends fathers funeral

[Justmejesse]

I need some help! My ex boyfriend and I dated back in high school for a year and a half. I broke it off in a very unkind way and was a total beast to him at the time. I haven't seen him in over 17 yrs but we have reconnect via FB. He is now married w/ children and so I'm I. My question is whether or not to attend his dad's funeral. I really liked his dad and his entire family for that matter. I feel REALLY bad for all the things I did to him back then and I would love to make it right (dont know how to do that either). I did send him a message on FB and offer my condolences that way and he said it would nice if I went to the funeral, I just don't want to make anyone unconfortable. Plz help!!

I disagree with others on this thread. If you've been invited, I think you should go, but sit at the back and not draw attention to yourself.

Don't go, Mabey send a nice card to him and his family. Could yiu meet for a coffee as friends, and apologise to him face to face. Nothing wrong with that.

It's only appropriate if he or his mum or someone else close to the deceased have asked you to be there. Otherwise, it's cruel. He's having a shit enough time at the moment with his dad dying, he doesn't need an ex girlfriend coming along and reopening old wounds and ma king hI'm deal with a whole bunch of complex emotions that are completely unrelated to his dad's death. Now is not the time. You aren't a part of this family's life any more. By all means grieve this man's death but you don't have to go to the funeral to do that.

He's invited op, but still I would not feel comfortable going.

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If he's invited you then go, just attend the service, offer condolences and don't attend the wake afterwards - having just lost my mum I only asked people to attend if I really meant them being there would be a support, if someone I'd invited and had said they were coming then didn't I would've noticed and been disappointed

On the flip side - my DM died last year and an ex of mine (15 years ago) asked if I would mind him attending her funeral. I was really touched that she had had enough of an impact on his life that he wanted to be there to say goodbye to her.

But it wasn't a terrible breakup, so I think it really depends on your motivations.

I think it's a bit late...the funeral seems to have been held about four years ago!

Oh yeah, 2011! How did this pop up again??

Oops. It must have been zombie-resurrected by the jessica361 spam posts.