Bit of background. Bloke got serious cold feet when I was pg and basically told me he wouldn't have anything to do with us and I would have to raise the baby by myself. We still stayed in contact, same circle of friends and also toing and froing on and off, especially when I was in late pregnancy when he suddenly decided to become nice again. So fast forward and the baby is now here, he has decided he wants to be part of her life however he didn't come to the hospital (I was in for quite a while) and he hasn't been to visit. He has seen her for about an hour when I took her round to his mum's house. The reason for this is his adult daughter is having trouble coping with the baby being here. SO he says he won't come and see his baby until his daughter is happy with things, apparently she thinks it might take a couple of months to do this! Last night I honestly lost it on the phone with him, he said adult daughter has to be his priority and he doesn't want to lie to her by saying he hasn't been round if he has. He thinks it doesn't matter because the baby doesn't understand what's going on and who everyone is. I can't stop crying about it, it's me who will have to explain in years to come why he's not in her baby pictures and she's growing so fast already.
So am I being unreasonable to expect him to come and visit?