To not take the dc's on holidays

[freakazoidroid]

So, holidays , I don't really enjoy them . I find it stressful travelling and I kind of miss my routine:/ . I also am not too keen on how expensive they are.
So my dc's are nearly 4 and 12. My eldest has been to France, centre parcs, st Ives and Wales on hols. My youngest France and centre parcs.
I feel like I am depriving them. But I also don't enjoy holidays so I tend to be grumpy on them as I feel that we should all be having a good time.
Does anyone else feel like this?

I don't blame you - I find 'holidays' are a minefield of trying to keep DH, DS and myself happy! We all enjoy different things ie: DH likes mountaineering, DS (an only child) loves kids clubs and meeting other DC and I like doing nothing relaxing and a little sight-seeing. I am always shocked at the cost of eating out/'entertainment' etc. although most of our holidays are camping/beach type stuff. I love cooking but trying to cook on a camp stove or an ill equipped rented cottage kitchen can be difficult.

The age gap between your two is quite large so it will be hard to keep them both amused.

I am always slightly envious of families who love holidaying together .

Yes the age gap is very tricky! I didn't plan that well!

I am not bothered about foreign holidays but i like to go somewhere in uk. MIL lives about 1 hours away from north Wales so we tend to go to hers for a day or 2 (3 hour drive) then go to Wales for a few days in a caravan (she pays so even better) I did take my dds to Parkdean on Hayling Island (7 hour drive ) and they loved it, esp the night time entertainment so may have to book up a butlins or pontins this year 9no parkdean near us)

YABU, sorry. Holidays with DCs can be hard, but it is not always about us. As parents we just have to suck it up.

i never went on holiday as a child and have to say i wasn't all that bothered

YANBU. Holidays always put me in a foul mood. I like my home. I like my work. I don't like having to start from scratch in someone else's environment and fill the day with 'having fun'. Plus I loathe hot weather so foreign beach hols are my idea of hell.

We go to stay with the grandparents instead of a proper hol, so there's people to look after/play with the kids, me and DH can see our old mates, and I can even do some work if I fancy. Bad mummy! I don't mind daytrips. Daytrips are the answer. Any more than that is way too much pressure and expense.

what do you think they are deprived of ? they have had holidays do you mean exotic hot sticky holidays where you sit on a beach/pool all day and roast , cos i hate those sorts of holidays or the thought as ive never been , although we have been to florida and it was HOT and sticky and stressful,

I think your children have had holidays closer to home doesnt mean they are missing out ,

oh and we have a caravan so tour britain and france still a holiday sometimes with rain but we have jackets

Really it is adults who like the foreign holidays. Small DCs are not at all bothered about the weather and are perfectly happy on a beach in wet weather gear and wellies. They can travel later.
I took mine skiing from an early age- but it was sheer selfishness-they don't get anything out of it until about 6yrs-8yrs is even better.

Well, I certainly regret some of the holidays I've done with my kids

YANBU. And your kids are not being deprived.

Until last year, mine had only been to bits of Britain (they definitely counted Wales as 'abroad', and Cornwall as pretty exotic). So what? We like Wales and Cornwall. Save the excitement for when they really want to go.

I sounded pretty ungrateful when i said florida was stressful didnt I ? it was an amazing experience and DC loved it , just it was so HOT and STICKY and BUSY i was exhausted when i got home ,
we had the best holiday last year we were at longlet campsite right behind the safari park it was great fun hearing the sealions in the morning , we also went to bath , then moved to dorset ,we had an amazing time , and are going back at easter ,

holidays are what you make them

if you go into them with a miserable face, not much chance of having a fab time is there

Oh I love holidays. Days spent playing on the beach and swimming in the sea . And a nice meal and a glass or two of wine at night my idea of heaven. Our dd seems to really love holidays too. Although by the time we have our twins its going to be extremely expensive going abroad. As buying five flights is going to be a bit of a killer.