for my kids to stay in bed wheni put them there!!!

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queenofthedancefloor · 14/12/2011 23:06

hi all.. i have a recent problem with my ten and seven year old. bit of background...single parent...have recently started seeing someone (four months ago). He comes around at nine(a few nites a week). Usually all my kids asleep then that is until arund two weeks ago. They are in and out of eachothers bedroom arguing banging...have tried everything from ignoring them to confiscating toys...no avail. They have only briefly met him and i am sure it is to do with something like they doing it for attention or because he comes around and they feel like they missing out on something i dont know...As am dreading xmas eve they gna b up all nite:-((

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WhoopsyLa · 14/12/2011 23:49

And yet he's not only a friend is he...so I do understand the OP being reticent...if he were to affect her negatively the DC would sense it...she doesn't want him to become part f their lives yet...so she is allowed to keep him just for herself until she's more sure of him.

troisgarcons · 14/12/2011 23:53

I agree Whoospy - but (reverting to the Op and subsequent posts) taking the light bulbs out and confiscating toys isnt exactly going to create a good karma for the evening is it?

TBH - maybe Im old fashioned - but dating a bloke who comes round when the kids are in bed? That would be a no-no in my book. I'd expect to be wined and dined and taken out. Maybe dating has moved on some in the pst 30 odd years.

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queenofthedancefloor · 14/12/2011 23:55

ha ha vampires. I think it is time we all went off for a day out soon n so does he. Can see the novelty value thing that makes sense. Yes take em out for day with random friend and tire them out..Hopefully then they av a good nightssleep. Winner :-) hopefully.... was just delaying introducing properly as didnt and dont want them to get hurt or upset if he not around but just odd days out maybe and then he can loose the novelty value and they dont become too attached. Its been awhile and going good bu well you never know do you.

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queenofthedancefloor · 14/12/2011 23:58

He does wine and dine me too though and take me nice places but it is nice to relax aswell and spend some time together.

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WibblyBibble · 15/12/2011 00:04

Jesus, some people are judgemental about some random shit on here. OP, think you do need to talk to them about this as they're old enough to be aware that it's not on to be getting up when they're supposed to be in bed unless they're scared/need something. They're probably getting overexcited thinking you have guests there who might play with them so trying it on, but if you have a calm word and say it's a friend of yours coming round and you want 'grown up time' (not just meaning sex! :D) they're old enough to understand that I think.

WhoopsyLa · 15/12/2011 00:08

The DC aren't meant to be experiencing any Karma after lights out though Trois they're meant to be sleeping...so the OP can relax. And I tell you...my lightbulbless DC never spoiled MY karma! Only the sound of them tromping about and giggling did that!

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queenofthedancefloor · 15/12/2011 00:15

Ha ha well the lightbulbs will have to come out if this persists lol along with chat and plan day out.... as you hit the nail right on the head there with that one...tromping about and giggling coupled with banging and arguing is ruining the karma here he he.lol

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BlissfulMistletoe · 15/12/2011 00:26

i would allow them to make the choice.

say to them you have 2 choices....if you go to bed and be quiet tomorrow you can (insert activity) with my children it is bake cakes or computer time......if you choose not to then there will be (insert activity)

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