to expect grown-ups to 'knock' on the front door, not bang the letterbox....

[bigbadal]

....letterbox banged whilst I was on the loo.

I asked small boy to go and see if there was a card (the opening of envelopes currently being his favourite activity) as Mummy was 'doing a poo' (we are shortly to start potty-training so we are talking about these things quite a lot). Small boy found no card but couldn't work out how to explain that there was someone outside - we have a floor to ceiling window next to the door.

.....So I repeated my request to find the card and 'bring it to me - I'm in the toilet doing a poo' SEVERAL TIMES before the man delivering a big parcel worked out how to use his knuckles and knock on the door. The hall light was on so I knew he had seen small boy so I had no choice but to wipe and wash hands as fast as possible before opening the door to sign the electronic gizmo.

I'm not sure that I have ever been so mortified. Surely most adults 'knock' rather than banging the letterbox?

Why the mortification? Surely if he's opened door and announced 'MUMMY IS DOING A BIG POO' that's reason for mortification?

Well done on remembering the hand washing though

I'm sorry but this is a bit of a non-event. If you are that fussed, get a doorbell. As for being mortified - it's not as if your DS told him you were doing a poo.

i would always "chap" the letterbox if it was a flappy one (ie not a stiff pushy in one)... hmm... that doesn't make much sense does it...???

what i mean is, some letter boxes are sort of like door knockers, those are the ones i use.. i doubt anybody deep inside a house would hear me knocking on the door with my knuckles.

Sounds a bit exhausting ...but typing it all out again has to make it worse right?

if there were no door bell then I would use the letterbox, I wouldn't only chap it once tho incase the occupants mistook it be mail, i would ensure I banged it a good 3 or 4 times, just to make sure they heard me.

YABU Buy a doorbell, or teach small boy to open the door and sign for parcels.

mortified because I was telling small boy rather loudly what I was doing and the loo is right next to the front door so delivery man WILL have heard my commentary....which somehow to me is more mortifying than if small boy had announced it to him.

And as for being a non-event....well tbh most of what is posted on these forums is a 'non-event'. I come on here for a bit of light entertainment. I am very sorry if I have offended you by sharing something that I found entertaining (if embarrassing). I'm sorry if you thought that the post's title was meant to be taken seriously.

Be grateful, round here they just walk in. I was a bit startled the other day to walk out of the kitchen and meet the Tescos man in my hallway, carrying a crate of food down to my kitchen. "Ullo love" he said. Right, and you knocked, yes?

The postman just opens the door and throws the letters in, its apparently quicker than using the letterbox [sigh].

In that case I apologise bigbadal - I did indeed think that you were serious! :)

Moi aussi

apology accepted - I'm not a big poster but wanted to share...tricky to get the nuances right!

OK honestly, I just (as in 6 minutes ago) said to my MIL (when FIL had just popped the letterbox door) "Could you please ask Dad to knock the door - because the letter box is SO LOUD it startles me whenever he bangs it." (it goes "squeak-WHAM!" Really annoying as hell)

and MIL just happened to have jumped like "WTF!" when he did it, so my point was made for me!

I did it when he was here and he admitted it was QUITE LOUD - so in short, YANBU, because depending on the letterbox/house size, it can be very loud.

Anyway, to each his own, but knock or ring. Leave the letterbox for the postie, imho.

people generally bang letterbox because they know someones in but they assume they weren't heard after knocking.

why does that make you less of a grownup?

bertha do you always leave your front door open for people to walk in?

wouldn't worry op, be they've heard it all before and i'd use a letterbox to knock unless there was a massive knocker

bigbadal

For future reference make your discomforture apparent in the thread title

'AIBU that the Fed Ex man knows I was taking a Dump'

Letter boxes are for banging

yes i've noticed mnetters tend to pick holes at evey word used these days, rather than try to be supportive/upbeat

i ask people to chap the letterbox as you can't hear people knocking on the door well enough, i get annoyed when people feebly knock than stand around until i happen to see them out of the kitchen window.

Maybe that's explains why they don't chap the letterbox, their Mum told them it was rude.

maybe he couldn't open the door to knock because he was carrying the big parcel and didn't want to set it on the ground. Instead he balanced the box using your door and used the letterbox to let you know someone's at the door.