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To think MIL is out of order calling DD a 'little shit'

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NewShooz · 14/12/2011 16:10

It was DDs 2nd birthday at the weekend, she had a lovely day at the farm, then a sleep and then PIL were coming round afterwards to bring a cake and presents.
DD was still very tired when I woke her up, but I don't like to let her sleep much past 4pm just incase it affects her bedtime. She also takes a while to come round after her nap, and likes to sit quietly on my lap for a while before getti g down to play.
So on this afternoon, they are obviously excited to see her on her birthday, and kept trying to get her to dance, open presents etc I explained she was still really tired but they didn't stop, so DD ended up getting grumpy.
Half hour later FIL announces that he can't stand Whingey kids and is leaving, so MIL went too.
Today when she came round, she asked how DD was and said "she was a little shit on Saturday" Shock AIBU to think that's a horrible way to talk about your 2yr old GD or am I being over sensitive? Its not like she was being naughty, she was tired after a long day!

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NewShooz · 14/12/2011 16:39

mrsmicawber I know what you mean. Had she of laughed when she said it I would have excused it a bit easier.

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Sossiges · 14/12/2011 16:45

They sound like a right pair of charmers...I wouldn't be inviting them back anytime soon.

MrsMicawber · 14/12/2011 16:47

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TardlyWhiptrack · 14/12/2011 16:54

'Oh by the way MIL, sorry, I meant to say yesterday. You speak about my daughter that way again, and I'll take your kneecaps off and force them down your throat. And while they're still down there, I'll make you sing the national anthem. Hope that's ok.'

snuffaluffagus · 14/12/2011 17:08

Get your partner to have a word, they're his parents!

sue52 · 14/12/2011 17:18

Horrid thing to sayXmas Shock. Your DD is a small child who gets tired, not a doll to amuse your ILS.

birdofthenorth · 14/12/2011 17:41

I had an incident of a friend desperately trying to play with DD -mostly for photos- when I had advised she was sleepy and grumpy last week. Annoying, but your PILs' respsonses absolutely take the biscuit! I would request an apology. "Little shit" indeed. Nice way to make her birthday special!

thebigkahuna · 14/12/2011 17:46

YANBU.

Did they have a cob on already before they got there? Did they want to go to the farm but couldn't, or were they unhappy because of the time they had to visit?

Or are they just monumental wankers all of the time?

ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 14/12/2011 17:59

What a pair of miserable tossers.
I look forward to an update tomorrow morning when you've woken them and whipped them to dance like bears in a cage.
They sound horrible, they are massive shits and should know better. I am Angry for you.

Pandemoniaa · 14/12/2011 17:59

That's seriously out of order! What a vile way to describe your dd. I'd have been furious. In any case, surely they know what your dd is like when she wakes up? Also, if they come round after your dd has already had a long day, I'd have thought they'd have the commonsense to realise she'd be a tired little girl.

My dgd is 11 months old. She also wakes up from her afternoon nap slightly grumpy - she so reminds me of her daddy (ds2) who was just the same at that age! - and there's no way we'd expect "performances" from her. If you give her a quiet cuddle and time to wake up properly she's soon full of smiles and fun.

What is it with these grandparents who seem to have forgotten everything they knew about being a parent I wonder?

HereKittyKitty · 14/12/2011 18:22

They are your PIL - what did your DP say? My DH would gutted if his parents said something like about one of their grandkids!

JamieComeHome · 14/12/2011 18:26

They sound like a pair of wankers.

Pandemoniaa · 14/12/2011 18:28

My DS and DDIL would go apeshit if any of us grandparents described dgs thus! And quite rightly too!

Dustinthewind · 14/12/2011 18:30

A truly horrible and selfish response, does your MIL often use language like this? I'd have argued with her about her language and attitude.

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NewShooz · 14/12/2011 19:09

thebigkahuna no, they were fine when they arrived. They were obviously expecting an all singing all dancing GD when they arrived, and we're annoyed when they didn't get it.

herekittykitty I told DH and he said "oh charming...that's lovely isn't it?? If I was here I would have bloody said something!"

dustinthewind I've never heard her refer to a toddler in this way before, especially one in her family. I SHOULD have said something, I know. As I said before, I need to grow a backbone and stop being a wimp!

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GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 14/12/2011 19:14

I hate people who treat children like cheap entertainment at the best of times. But language like that about a tired and probably over excited 2yo is disgusting.

I second the call to wake them at 4am and expect them to tap dance.

SantaDesperatelySeeksSedatives · 14/12/2011 19:50

"Call her at 6 am tomorrow and bellow down the phone 'DANCE, YOU BIG OLD SHIT, DANCE!! DANCE I TELL YOU!! YOU DARE TO FAIL TO ENTERTAIN?"

Personally I LOVE this plan. Xmas Grin

YANBU btw both your inlaws sound like grumpy old turds.

Backtobedlam · 14/12/2011 19:56

YANBU. I'd have been livid, but like you, only thought of something to say afterwards. Mil called my dc a 'shit bag' at just 8 weeks old. She had filled her nappy at the time, but I still feel resentful about it.. Don't really know what you can do about it now, but you have a right to be angry about it.

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NewShooz · 14/12/2011 21:05

Oh I REALLY wish I had the guts to ring in them early in the morning Grin that would be fun. I could say DD told me to.

backtobedlam that is horrible!

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otisreading · 14/12/2011 21:19

If you don't challenge her on this now you are giving her carte blanche to behave like this in the future.

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