To be scared witless as I am about to go into work tomorrow

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and hand in my notice with no job to go to

Why?

I mean why are you handing in your notice, and why are you so terrified?

Whether you like your job or not, you have one. You would be a fool to give in your notice without a job to go to.

The job is detroying me, mentally and physically. Im terrified as I feel so guilty leaving the financial burden with DH until I get a new job

sick good luck. Ignore mabel. Do it for you and your sanity if you can manage financially

You are more employable if you are employed. Can you not look for work and grit your teeth for a while longer? Giving up a job in the current economic climate is barmy, even if it is one you hate.

It takes masses of courage to do this and you are fortunate that you can.
Don't waste energy feeling guilty, spend energy looking forward to the future, looking for more suitable work and whilst you are at home spend your time doing stuff that takes the pressure off day to day life for the whole family.

its not necessarily true that you are more employable if you are employed. IME alot of jobs require an immediate start and they will favour a candidate who can rather than one with a long notice period.

Callisto I had a friend that walked out of her job at lunchtime to go home for lunch, when it came to going back time, she couldn't go. She was shaking, crying and panicking and just couldn't do it, she'd been having panic attacks over it for months it turned out. She never went back and is happily employed in a new career.

Don't underestimate the power of an awful job.
Sick you can and will get a new job when you are ready, there are jobs out there, i say this and my DH has had two redundancies in a year and was re-employed within a week both times xxx

sick-being in an awful job will grind you down so if you can do it then do it!

depends how bad it is I suppose. a terrible job could make you ill (stress depression) and it may take longer to recover from that than to resign now and find a new job.

Scary because I get over £40K a year but i will have 2 months to find a new job

Can you only go without a second wage for 2 months? Are there many openings your area?

2 months is the notice period

sick I feel exactly the same as you do, every week the night before I go back into work i can't sleep, get hedacahes and am irritable, sensitive and snappy. When i ge in from work I can barely keep my patience with the kids, I absolutely hate it. DH earns good money I just wonder if we could manage on 1 wage for a short time until I can find something that won't shorten my life span like the stress of this job will.

So are you planning to go straight into a new job after the two month notice period? Then you are just changing jobs. If you don't find a new one can you afford to live off your DH wage alone?

Im starting to lose my nerve

Have you been looking for new work already? 2 months isn't long to find a new job, though obviously it depends what you do.

No, you hate this job so leave. Why are you losing your nerve?

I did it - it worked out okay as i managed to get a long term placement pre mat leave. (have got to try to find something now). I do feel it is better to get out before it makes you ill (like black eyed santa says). I felt so much better the instant i went.

As long as financially you can cope, do it

can you sign up with agencies?

Good luck xxxxxxxx

I did that many years ago and got an interview the day I handed my notice in as well has offered a maternity leave contract. I was at the new job 11 years and loved it.
I really hated the job I was in, it was the best move I ever made

I wish I had the guts to do it.

What is in the emails, sick?

I may be asking a stupid questions but have you talked to your DH about it? If you have and he is supportive of your decision, then don't feel guilty. If you are having a difficult time and he is prepared to shoulder then burden, then go with it. That's what partner are for. :)

I agree about being more employable if you are employed BUT.... You won't be in any fit state to get a new job if the current one makes you lose your marbles.

Good luck.

Right, you'll feel more confident if it's not a total step into the unknown. Have you already updated your CV and got it out to recruitment agencies? Have you already contacted people at recruitment agencies and asked if you can pop in to see them? (perhaps take a couple of mornings off as holiday to do this) Have you seen any other jobs you'd like the look off? Had any interviews?

I was in a similar position 3 years ago, DH said "Just quit" but knowing that was an option and that job wasn't 'forever' meant I felt a lot more confident, I ended up resigning 3 months later having set up a great new role.

good luck whatever you decide.

I did it, about 10 years ago, i didn't have the financial responsiblity i have now.
But i never, for one minute regretted it. Lives too short. Good luck.