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AIBU?

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Original poster

To put in a complaint about a policeman?

17 replies

ThisIsNotMyLife · 12/12/2011 19:45

A week or so ago, my DH was threatened with a knife by some idiot when he was coming out of our apartment building. The idiot was apparently trying to get through the door. Idiot ran off when challenged.

Anyway, since then there have two attempts to organise an ID parade (amazed they still do them tbh). The first one failed because they got locked out of the room they were supposed to use, the second because they failed to inform my DH of the time and place.

I've just had a policeman in my front room basically harranging us for inconviencing him by not sitting by the phone all day in case he rang.

Should I complain?

OP posts:

GoingForGoalWeight · 12/12/2011 19:48

YANBU

Complain, good luck :)

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 12/12/2011 20:14

Think about it carefully, OP, before you complain. Sometimes it's better to stay 'off radar'. The majority of our police force is everything it should be - a few are not. They all have access to the same information.

Not that your DH was in the wrong at all, he wasn't, but didn't he give a mobile number?

Winkly · 12/12/2011 20:17

Feel free to complain, but what do you hope to achieve?

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 12/12/2011 20:23

Good luck with that.

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ThisIsNotMyLife · 12/12/2011 20:34

An apology would be nice!

OP posts:

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 12/12/2011 20:42

Well if your husband is bothered by it, let him complain, OP. Why didn't either he or you say something at the time the policeman was in your house?

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 12/12/2011 20:46

It's a bit "boo-fucking-hoo" isn't it?

olibeansmummy · 12/12/2011 20:47

You could try but it won't do any good. Dh got pushed up against a wall and sworn at because his

Winkly · 12/12/2011 21:13

Your husband could, when speaking next to the officer, politely say "I felt you were rather abrupt with me the other day" and see if he gets an apology, rather than engaging in what it actually a rather lengthy and unwieldy complaints process, if its simply an apology that he would like.

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 12/12/2011 21:43

Good grief no! you have a case against the "knife idiot" person ongoing and you want the local police to actually help catch him. A complaint now will only ensure that you will never ever receive any help from them again, and would need to be literally being murdered live on the phone for them to bother to come out to you. Think of the police as the biggest, meanest school bullies going, then remind yourself that the teachers will always believe them over you, and they have all the power. If you piss this officer off he may well tell the suspect who it is who is bringing the charges/the one who is identifying him and then where will you be!

HecklerNotKoch · 12/12/2011 22:10

would you complain if a shop assistant spoke to you in the same tone, or a teacher? or would you do what most of us would and shrug your shoulders and put it to oneside as you are presumably a grown up

malakadoush · 12/12/2011 22:28

Pom you're right...but isn't that a good enough reason to complain? Because until the non criminals consistently refuse to put up with poor behaviour from the police, then they will carry on behaving in the way they do.

And my experience of them is appalling - from a systemic lack of understanding of PACE to being totally dishonest when called to account.

OP - I'd complain, but don't expect it to be an easy or pleasant experience.

malakadoush · 12/12/2011 22:29

heckler shop assistants and teachers don't have the power the police do, so misuse isn't such an issue.

cocomaddiemoo · 12/12/2011 22:33

Pombear, what are you talking about? The OP will not receive any less favourable treatment because she had put in a complaint. The systems log what the problem is and yes will display previous calls, but not if any complaint made. The nature of the job deems how fast the police get there, not who it is. A persistant complainer will soon become well known anyway but will always receive the same service.

And why would the police tell the suspect who her DP is? Suspect would see him in court anyway.
And no one believes the Police,not even the courts, so, again what are you talking about?

OP I think you have received shitty service tbh, but everyone has off days and is maybe a little harsher than they mean to be. Its not really a big deal in the grand scheme. Not really worth the hassle od worrying bout it.

Just Saying.

demetersdaughter · 12/12/2011 23:21

Have a great big old fashioned moan OP and don't let it drop until you've put a few police officers out.
Personally i've stopped giving the police force any respect at all after two incidents involving into social behaviour.
And if someone like me who's never been arrested or cautioned doesn't like them?
Imagine what the criminals think of them?

QOD · 12/12/2011 23:34

I complained about a solid man's attitude once- Paul (not a sir. then)Condon came round to personally apologise. I was utterly mortified and tried to refuse it. I almost complained about him coming then decided I didn't want the queen round to. .. .

QOD · 12/12/2011 23:35

stupid phone! police man NOT Solid man!

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