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Original poster

to want a bloody xmas party (SAHM, just moved)

14 replies

onwardsandacross · 12/12/2011 19:36

DH was out for a boozy xmas lunch with his 'team' today. He's still at it Hmm.

On Thursday it is the proper xmas party (no partners invited), and next week there will be at least two more events.

Last week he was taken out by the team he was working with previously.

The whole office leave early and go to the pub every bloody day.

WHERE IS MY CHRISTMAS PARTY? I'm a SAHM and we just moved so only really know the DCs so far.

I don't begrudge H his fun (much), but each one means dealing with the DCs all day and evening, H turning up pissed and clumping around loudly or trying to have a chat at 3am - or falling asleep on the hallway floor, in the bathroom etc - and then being hungover the next day while I get the DCs
ready for school etc.

I could open a bottle of wine and wear a party hat now, I suppose, but it wouldn't feel very festive!

AIBU? Maybe I could ask DH to sort a babysitter and take me out for some wine a nice meal before xmas?

Does anyone else feel a bit Xmas Envy?

OP posts:
kerala · 12/12/2011 19:45

Its hard if youve just moved. When I moved here I went to every local playgroup and was really pushy - approaching people with similar aged children who looked nice etc. For every one that wasnt interested there was one that was and byy the next Christmas a group of us who didnt have work dos organised a glam night out and made our partners come. It was really fun and has now become an annual event.

iloveeverton · 12/12/2011 19:51

I'm self employed so is dh,so no Christmas do but me and dh have booked a hotel room and meal next Saturday for our Christmas do!

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onwardsandacross · 12/12/2011 19:54

My DCs are school-aged and I've not been able to make many 'contacts' yet, been smiley and saying hello etc, so far everyone has been a nanny(!) but am hopeful for the future (unless we move again of course :().

iloveeverton that is genius!

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dottygirl1 · 12/12/2011 20:02

I am the same. Dont even have a babysitter (yet). Not only am I jealous of my DH's xmas work parties but also jealous of all my friends back home texting,emailing and phoning me about their nights out!!!!!

My DC's are in school too and I'd say people think I am a semi-stalker...trying to engage them in chat.

DrCoconut · 12/12/2011 20:27

We don't have a work do so no party for me either. DS2 is ill anyway so am confined to the house until he recovers. Def try to go out if you can, even if you take the DC.

SuePurblybiltbyElves · 12/12/2011 20:31

I'll have a work soft drink in a bar then come home by 7pm to collect DD and put her to bed. No babysitter and no money to pay one anyway Grin.

I shall probably end up making the Empire State Building out of dropped tree needles or something.

BlissfulMistletoe · 12/12/2011 20:32

perhaps we should have a MN christmas party.

start a thread on 23rd December with a thread full of christmas song ect.

i have a works do, but can't go as DH is in work and no sitters :(

Dozer · 12/12/2011 20:33

Was in similar situation last year and looked up xmas parties at toddler groups, children's centres, soft play, anywhere basically! Was better than nothing, and met some nice people, but obviously not same as boozy work nights!

Your dh is milking it big time. Usual etiquette at work (unless a field where constant networking is required) is to attend a team event and bigger event, not meet up with old / other teams etc. Lots people decline lots of these invitations. also unecessary to stay out til 3am!

Nor should he be getting to nurse a hangover the next day, if a weekday he can nurse the hangover at work, if a weekend he should do whatever you normally do.

squeakytoy · 12/12/2011 20:36

I work from home, and my husband's works do was a men only piss-up, no partners invited (not that any of us would have wanted to go!).. so I made my stepson invite me to his works do which is later this week. (Well I do occasionally do some paperwork for him, so that counts as being one of his staff Grin)

runningwilde · 12/12/2011 20:36

Tell us where you live and make some new mates!

callmemrs · 12/12/2011 20:39

A lot of Xmas parties tend to be work based- but nothing to stop you having your own bash. Why not invite some neighbours round ?

olgaga · 12/12/2011 20:40

I know exactly what you mean and no, YANBU.

When I gave up work and was home full time with a new baby, I really missed the work xmas party - it really hits home how your life has changed at this time of year. When I moved away from family and friends for DH work I missed any kind of social life - at one point the nearest I got was the occasional pleasant exchange with checkout staff I'd see regularly!

It won't help you today, but in my experience you do kind of move away from wanting these things eventually. DH had his work do on Friday, had an awful hangover on Saturday, then felt "feverish" and developed a cold sore the size of Wembley stadium.

Poor lamb, right?!

dottygirl1 · 12/12/2011 21:03

Olgaga.......I feel the same about the checkout staff. My social life is Tesco.

olgaga · 13/12/2011 00:02

Dotty, I got to the point where I would look for my fave chatty ones, then wander for a bit until there was no-one about to queue behind me.

My name is Olgaga, and I am a supermarket cashier stalker!!

Of course the irony is we'd usually spend the precious 85 seconds or so talking about kiddie stuff anyway.

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