About persoanlised xmas cards

[alwayswantedamrfrosty99]

ive always bought them for close family and my best mate

they always send them back i thinks its nice to receive a personal card picked for u

this is my 5th xmas with my DH for the past 4 of them we have bought his parents and brother a personal card,last year was DSs 1st xmas so we bought them a card off him too

every year we get a card off them out of a pack of xmas cards,even on DSs 1st xmas they just put his name on ours,my neighbours and some of the ppl i no from work gave my DS a personal card

this year i posted a card out of a pack of card,didnt bother the personal cards for them

i dont no why but it upsets me that they dont bother,especially with DS

I really really wouldn't take it personally! Seems like a lot of money to waste spend on cards

I used to get non-pack ones from my mum...this year I got a pack one and Ds (2 months) got a special one!

It's the message inside that counts IMO (the handwritten one)

A grip. Get one.

Some people ( me included) think "personalised cards " of the " for a grandson" " for a son and daughter in law" type are naff, over priced and commercial. I've never seen them as a charity card. For which reasons I do not send them, every body I send a card too will have a card from a pack. Now DS is getting older it may be from a pack of "made by DS " cards or it may be a pack of charity cards.

Our local card shop expanded into every possible scenario last year - with a choice of different catagories for each person's partner: "To my daughter & her fiance" was particularly memorable, and "to my dad & his new partner" - I felt exhausted just contemplating all the many scenarios that must exist round one dinner table.

Also the shop went bust in January so not sure there was much demand...

Yes, I've never seen these as a charity card either and I am vair surprised if I get a card that hasn't contributed something to some charity at this stage.

I have never bought one of those cards in my life.

Your post has just made me realise that PIL's always send us personal ones - one for us and one each for the DDs.

It never occurred to me to waste my money on that trash return the favour. But I am now chortling at the fact that they may be pissed off about that

My parents and in-laws always send us Son and Daughter type cards and a Granddaughter one for DD. We send them one out of a pack if we remember. I find cards a pain in the arse and a complete waste of money, I'd much prefer to spend more on a present than waste it on something that will be thrown away in a few weeks - baffling my ILs take great trouble over their cards but seem to put much less thought into presents, often just giving money or a voucher - I know which I think is more thoughtful.

I can see how it could feel a bit hurtful if cards matter to you but honestly I think there are bigger things to worry about.

My Mum always buys/makes me and DP a 'daughter and her fiancee card'. I buy her a Mum and Husband card.

That said, Mum and my Grandma thought it was really funny that you could buy cards to/from the dog/cat so they started sending them 'To the birds in your garden, from the birds in ours'

Like I said earlier, what people send is up to them. If others think it is naff/unreasonable/whatever, then meh!

My MIL is obsessed with cards. I have to point out here that I am not British and therefore haven't been brought up to send or receive loads of cards (yes, it really is a British thing).

Over the years I have received cards to a "son's girlfriend", then "daughter-in-law to be", and now "daughter-in-law". They are never the funny ones either, but rather the cheesy, sickly twee ones with teddy bears or doves, etc. And she doesn't send them just for Xmas or birthdays either; I seemingly deserve a card every time I sneeze.

At first, desperate to fit in, I was dutifully reciprocating with "MIL to be" cards, etc. And now surely it would seem rude if I stopped, so I still shell out for "MIL" cards.

Have offended her this year though as it didn't occur to me to send a card to her from DD. Who is 7 mo. And therefore can't write. So the card would obviously be from me. But apparently it does not seem ludicrous to her that I should send her 2 cards, and pretend that one of them is not from me but from DD. WTF????????

She is very sweet though so I do tend to indulge her with things like this. And next year I will probably send her a card "from DD". The things you have to do to keep the peace :)

"Personalised" cards are expensive, maybe they are trying to save money? But still keep the Christmas card tradition going but in a more affordable way?

YABU but you know that already. Personal 'mum' etc. cards are 1) hideously ugly, and b) really expensive. I send out pack cards and try to write a personal note in some most but it would never occur to me to be offended by a Christmas-stocking-picture-Happy-Christmas-love-us type card.

DS is 21mo and last year I got the finger paints out and he did some splodges to make Christmas cards for elderly relatives. This afternoon we got out the glitter shudder and he's made some cards for his little friends at nursery, as well as elderly relatives. He still can't write though :o

YABU - as said above these cards are usually sickly sweet and overpriced, they only person who I know sends them is my SIL and she lacks taste. We either create our own using a Christmas photo and make a donation to our chosen charity or we buy a pack or 2 of charity cards. Even for 1st Christmases I wouldn't change.

Get a grip!

YABU

It is your family's tradition - not theirs