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AIBU?

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To think Facebook has been the downfall of so many why don't people learn !!

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maypole1 · 12/12/2011 15:26

Just been thinking about how many marriages have failed because of things said or pictures seen on face book

How many teachers who have slatted of pupils or even added them as friends and over stepped the Mark

Or people throwing sick days then posting their civet day on line or those who slag of their boss's and get caught out

It amazes me always how much info people put on it and don't relies how it can become your down fall

My bil who is a barrister often uses face book to dis credit people And I have also been told by sister they always goggle/ Facebook before interviews

All the horror stories why don't people learn

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SanTEEClaus · 12/12/2011 15:27

I don't know anyone who any of the above have happened to, so what exactly should I be learning? Oh I know, that I have smarter friends than most people.

Nux · 12/12/2011 15:27

Civit day? Isn't that some kind of rodent?

AlpinePony · 12/12/2011 15:29

Surely you can only look at someone's fb profile if they've left all their security wide open?

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maypole1 · 12/12/2011 15:30

Sorry duvet day guru auto correct

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ViviPrudolf · 12/12/2011 15:30

If you use Facebook for anything other than keeping in contact with friends with whom it might be difficult to do so otherwise or for sharing photos that may be of genuine interest to your friends and family, then you deserve to have it as your downfall.

Why are you even bothered, OP?

IneedAChristmasNickname · 12/12/2011 15:30

I don't know anyone that has happened to either.

Hassledge · 12/12/2011 15:31

People do leave the security wide-open, though. Idiot people, but there are a surprising number of them.

But before FB people still had affairs, or slagged off their boss and got overheard; they still did stupid things and got caught out - I suppose the existence of FB makes it easier to be caught out, but FB isn't responsible for people being twats.

journoem · 12/12/2011 15:32

I guess people don't think it'll happen to them, especially with the job thing. I have a friend who posted on twitter that he hated his job and was fired when they saw the tweets a few months later. He's annoyed that they saw them because his account is private/locked, he has never told anyone at work his twitter ID and it took them several months to ask him about it. But then he shouldn't have tweeted about his hate of it in the first place.

I once worked in a shop and bought some paintbrushes from there, updated FB with a status about how I'd spent my afternoon painting and that I didn't like the paintbrushes I was using and I got asked about it in a meeting with a boss at work the next day. I was so scared that I'd be sacked! I haven't used FB properly since then, you have to be so careful with what you put online

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maypole1 · 12/12/2011 15:33

AlpinePony well thats what I am saying how can people be so silly

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maypole1 · 12/12/2011 15:38

Also I don't always think face books are left wide open people have added alot of randoms

My sister took a two sick days went of to hen weekend posted all the pictures on face book her page is closed but she thinks someone at work showed the pictures she has virtually everyone who works their added so know way of finding out who

I told my sister she was a goat and she lucky she has kept her job

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AlpinePony · 12/12/2011 15:38

Yes, you're right of course. I was just thinking along the lines of what would I say on fb about work etc.?

ViviPrudolf · 12/12/2011 15:50

OP I can't work out which are autocorrect fails and which are not in your posts

IneedAChristmasNickname · 12/12/2011 15:52

But why is it wrong to post on fb that you hate your job/had a shit day at the office? DP quite often tells me work was shit that day? Or does it depend what job you do?

exoticfruits · 12/12/2011 16:20

All you need to do is take care that security settings are at the highest level. If people are careless enough to make them public, so that bosses etc can see then it is their own fault!!

KittyFane · 12/12/2011 16:44

Depends who you add as friends OP. If you collect 'friends' (every man and his dog) and leave privacy settings wide open you are asking for trouble. If you have trusted friends (real friends) then no problem.
Nobody can search for me, I don't add everyone who asks ( if they are a friend if a friend and have seen a post by me on another's wall) and friends of friends generally can't see my stuff.
Be careful what you post, don't write anything you wouldn't want passed around.

troisgarcons · 12/12/2011 16:52

In days gone by, Friends Reunited was another site employers checked.

TroublesomeEx · 12/12/2011 17:11

Well I have 47 friends and have the tightest privacy settings. I don't accept friend requests from anyone unless I know them personally and like them! Partners, friends of friends, someone I met once and was ok, Nope. None of them.

Most of my friends, my DH and I only put stuff on there that is nice and supportive. We share our successes and congratulate each other on them. The sort of thing that we want to tell people but aren't really worthy of a phonecall. Only have one friend who C&P rubbish statuses. Bless! No one ever puts anything abusive on there and have never seen a FB fight or anything of that ilk.

Given that my DH, DS, parents, parents of DC's friends, DC's friends and people I know personally and professionally are on there, I'm very careful about what I post.

I'd be happy for mine to be printed off and posted around the neighbourhood. Just maybe a bit that I don't have a more exciting life!

So nope, I haven't learned anything from FB that I didn't know already!

VikingLady · 12/12/2011 17:11

When I was interviewing people, I used to check them out online first. So glad I did... If they are slagging off their current boss all over the internet, I am n ot giving them the chance to do it to me! Nor do I want to see their lady parts as their status photo!

Did give me a laugh, though.

kickingking · 12/12/2011 17:19

Do people leave their privacy settings that loose then? Or post on forums under their real name? My FB settings are tight and I only ever use forums anonymously - surely that is the norm?

Agree though - am a teacher and if I wanted to, I could print photos off FB of my colleagues miming sex acts with large dildos right now I assume you'd have to be FB friends with them to see that though.

aubergineinautumn · 12/12/2011 17:21

But it's like having a moblie now, almost essential to stay in the loop.

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 12/12/2011 17:33

Pmsl @"i told my sister she was a goat"

Jajas · 12/12/2011 17:37

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LaurieFairyCake · 12/12/2011 17:39

A lot of people are just mind numbingly stupid.

I don't have Facebook - can't risk being one of the thickos who can't set the privacy properly.

And I think it's crap, pointless (for me) and prefer real life even though I'm on mumsnet typing this.

Megatron · 12/12/2011 17:54

I kind of see what the OP is saying. One of my FB friends (I am very careful about privacy) writes the most ridiculous things on her status. Every other day there's something about the school (a complete no no as far as I'm concerned) or another friend etc. It drives me insane and I have spoken to her about it before to no avail. She's an Actuary, so whilst she may not be Einstein, she's certainly no thicko.

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