To think that they could pretend to be happy?

[Livinginoz]

I am 7 weeks pregnant with DC2. DH is very close to his mum and wanted to tell her straight away because his brother is getting married in August and we are now not going to make it back for the wedding (which was never a certainty before I got pregnant)
We Skyped on Saturday night and both his brothers were there, his parents and his brother's fiancé. We told them and they just said "Oh" Youngest brother said "Congratulations" but the rest of them sat there looking miserable. Mil made a few noises about Ds having a new baby brother or sister but SIL sat there watching XFactor!
I know it's sad that they won't be here to go through it all with us and I know its a shame we won't be at the wedding but surely they could've pretended to be happy? We haven't told my family yet but I can't imagine getting a reaction like that!
Maybe I ABU, but their reaction has made me pleased we are not spending $10k going back for the wedding [bitter emoticon]

My family do similar underwhelment at absolutely everything. It sucks and you have my sympathy.

Just ignore, maybe they're happy inside and crap at showing it. I just try to avoid my family's weird negativity.

Well, YANBU to be upset, of course you're not.

But I would've been gutted if my brother hadn't come to my wedding. :( And he had to fly across planet to be there, too.

If they were normally so underwhelmed I wouldn't have minded but they are usually so over the top that I was a bit shocked

Oh...is there something else that's gone on? Maybe they'd just had a fight?

Either way, don't take it to heart. Their reaction isn't that important.

Well then, I'd probably be more inclined to cut them do slack.

They probably are actually really disappointed that it's not going to be a big old family get-together, which if you're in a different country from them is not something which happens very often?

I mean, sure, the reason you'll be missing it is obviously a lovely one but still, that doesn't change the fact that there will be a big DS-(yourDH-)-shaped hole in the wedding day which will be noticeably felt by his immediate family.

If they're not normally like this, then I'm sure they'll come round when they've had time to get used to it, and then be really pleased for you.

Can you not appreciate it from their point at all? :)

They should have been happier but in a way, you will be stealing their thunder or should I say SIL's thunder? Wedding vs. birth.

Its not right and its a bit petty but understandable reaction from brother and SIL. You are all about you and they are all about them.

I really do, I think I'm so upset for DH because he was so excited at telling them.
It's put us off telling anyone else!