Aibu to believe my mother stuffed my ds full of crap last night

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Dp and I went out for the first time in 18 months last night. My mum won't travel here (30 miles away) and we have no other family nearby. She and dad were happy to babysit for ds1 (3.5) and ds2 (8 mo). It's the third time they have had ds1, the last time being may 2010, they've never had ds2.
We took both kids to them yesterday afternoon, spent the day there, I put ds2 to bed (bf to sleep) and we went at 7.30 leaving them with ds2 still up.
Got back at midnight, ds2 still up, running around hyper, bought both kids home as previously arranged, thought we'd be transferring them to car asleep, ds1 fell asleep straight away anyway as soon as we drove off which he always dies in the car.
This morning greeted by ds1 covered in vomit, all over him, his bed, the carpet, and he'd pooed in the night. The vomit appeared to contain flaky pastry.
Asked mum if he had eaten anything after we left, she said absolutely not. He hadn't eaten any pastry all day and the house was groaning under the weight of cake when we arrived, muffins, scones, strudel, profiteroles, mince pies, all of which were offered continually through the day.
Aibu to not believe her assertion that ds1 had not been fed a steady diet of cake all night? He is not the most reliable witness, he says he had a green racing car cake when we went out.

If he's still feeling unwell then it's more than likely a bug.

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I'd think it was a bug if he is still ill today. Only the sort of vomiting that comes on after a stomach full of too much food tends to be of the "better out than in" variety. With a correspondingly quick recovery.

great minds etc Sleepy!

YANBU (imo)

but...I don't think that there is nothing you can do about it

The fact that your mum claimed that she gave DC nothing to eat at all (which is contradicted by DS1 and highly unlikely, I would think) suggests that she knows damn well that you'd be unhappy with whatever she did give him, but she will emphatically deny it and probably feel no guilt no matter how thick you lay it on about how ill DS1 is and how upset you are.

If you don't want it to happen again (and I totally understand how it will have ruined your memory of a night out), then the only alternative is a paid babysitter - who WILL follow your requests regarding food, bedtime and the like (more or less).
If you want to let your mum down gently, then just say you prefer DS1 to be in his own bed rather than disturbed when you pick him up.

Hope the sick ends soon

that's a sick bug and has nothing to do with your grandparents.

My DS has one right now. He is largely ok within himself but he has thrown up 9 times in the last 1.5 days.

It doesn't seem much like a sick bug and I first thought it was more to do with him coughing so much with the chesty cold. however, this does seem to be going round.

notaDisneymum chill these things happen to kids. GP tend to spoil their grandkids, its very if you are going to prevent them from looking after them because of this.

most kids are sick sometime in their lives because they have stuffed themselves, there are some pfb vibes going on in this thread. Like others have said it sounds like a sickness bug, if he had overfilled himself he would have been sick there and then or in the car, not during the night. Blaming the GP for something that is not entirely their fault is way out of line and you can end up damaging relationships because of one silly thing.

I woke up this morning to find my perfectly happy and well 1 year old covered from head to foot in huge piles of sick. She has been totally fine. She barely ate yesterday

Never known a child who was sick through overeating to still feel ill the next day, far more likely to be a bug imho. And as others have said sickness from overeating tends to come closely after the overindulging, not hours after.