Introduction: joined a while ago, dipped in and out, lurked a bit, nerdy about posting, but here goes!
Background: short relationship, unplanned pregnancy, gave it a go, split, all ok, became unworkable, court battle for access, ExP told a lot of lies that were believed, agreed on access, permitted parental responsibility.
Ds attends hospital 2/3 times per year, I generally take him, though decided if it is ExP's contact day he should (I was having to take time off work), he has only done one appt in 4 years prior to this week.
Ds had appt on Weds, told ExP 3 weeks ago, emailed appt letter, forwarded reminder text, asked if all were received and arranged with school and ExP that DS would be collected at 1pm. All fine. Called ( just to make sure all ok) at 12.30 on the day in question to find ExP still at work, decided not to inform me that he was sending his Mother, (who speaks limited English) and his brother (see Ds about 3/4 times a year and has no clue of his medical history). Must say I flipped my lid, told ExP this was his responsibility, disgusted he is not prepared to lose half a days pay for his child's well being, told me IWBU, replied that he wanted PR - well this appointment was exactly what PR entails. Made him call his mother and brother and tell them to leave Ds at school. Thankfully have an understanding boss, let me take half day and dealt with appt myself, as I am part-time employ I feel the need to make up the time which is a pressure I could do without.
Sorry so long winded, still fuming 2 days on. AIBU?