To want to spend time with family - are you saying yes to all invites in December?

[Newmummytobe79]

We have a new baby and DH working long hours (other post!).

We've always said yes to invites to family/friends in December but obviously can't go out as often as we used to.

Do you still say yes to all invites or pick and choose? Also ... what do you say to those who are (don't flame me please) erm ... less important?

I say yes to everything unless the dates actually clash. I hate staying in.

But then I'm a single parent so it's a bit different to have an actual family right there in the house with you.

Life is too short to say no - I just keep a careful diary, and if I want a get out I say something like 'oh, I'll have to check with DH to see what shift he is on'.

There is no reason why you can't go out to visit friends with the baby, in fact it's sometimes easier as they are running around making you tea and giving you food!

I say no to 90% of things, only accept stuff will really enjoy or family obligations, it's great! I don't give much explanation, just polite decline.

Me and DH and DS have not been invited anywhere by anyone! not sure if or !! But we have invited BIL and his fam to ours one day, then two families another and and third friend on another day. I love having people over but sometimes I just want to be at home.

OP, don't feel that you have to say yes! You can pick and choose and for those that are not as important, say that you are really shattered with new baby and how about you get together some time in the NY! I am sure they would understand if they are decent enough friends!

I say yes to everything until the dairy can take no more, but do take into account certain costs. I do have rules, no boozy nights out on consecutive nights, and if I have a night out booked in one week I'll check with DH to see if he has any on the cards for the next week.

Out tonight. Recovery tomorrow. Then every other evening next week we're doing something. Either with kids, with each other or alone.

This is the busiest year I've had socially since I started breeding. My youngest is 4.

NewMummy when you have a baby or small child it is perfectly okay to pick and choose as much or a little as you want to. I didn't go out at all socially and without my child for about 18months! My choice, and one I was happy with. Don't feel pressured.

We aren't exactly social animals and don't get invited out very often. We don't live near family anyway and most of our friends are scattered about the country, so we don't have any invitations to refuse.

I went to my work Christmas meal out last night and am going out for a curry with some friends just before Christmas, but that is it. OH is really unsociable and hasn't bothered trying to make friends with anyone in our village.

We haven't got any family left ..... I can only hope my brother decided to come back to civilisation for a week or two over Christmas

Wondering what aldiwhore does in the dairy that means it can take no more

TeamDamon!