To think that calling an absent father a "sperm donor" is a bit offensive?

[Sixyearoldwoes]

Sperm donors, especially these days since anonymity laws changed are quite likely to care about couples who can't conceive. They have not abandoned a family. Their actions come through considered action and they will have been counselled by a clinic. Not the same as someone who fathers a child and then doesn't face up to hybrid responsibilities.

X posts, and no, no anger. Relief I think that the absence of that relationship allowed me to have an uncomplicated relationship with my adoptive father and siblings.

Sixyearold,

thanks for your reply. It's quite an interesting and complicated subject. I can see why people wanting a child would go down this route, just find it hard to grasp that sperm and egg donors know that their biological offspring are out there walking among them with what knows kind of life.

Good luck to you and yours and have a lovely Christmas!

We prefer 'The Sperminator'

Fwiw, Sozzled, again it's all personal, but I started the process thinking I'd be an egg donor after completing my family to kind of pay it forward. But I didn't think I'd cope with the idea of potential offspring. And I got too old! I never worry the other way round-ie what if he's the donor kind of thoughts.

Also, fwiw I think the guardian on Saturday finds the subject a bit too interesting! There seem to be umpteen articles about donor conception!