at the grand old age of 35 to not want to go out (as in staggering around and getting pissed) anymore?

[Greedygirl]

I am going out tonight with my lovely SIL and one of my BFs. I would rather stay in and watch The Killing. Is this a terrible state of affairs? I usually try and get food on the agenda but this has been firmly put aside by the others in favour of just drinking. Is it time I swapped them for some more boring friends?

Oh god yes, I'm 35 and would rather have a nice meal, chat and a couple of glasses of wine than go on a bender. Don't think Im an old fogey just wiser :)

Yes I think so. I'm 37 and much prefer a meal out so we can talk. Mind you I like a bit of a dance too, once I've had a glass or two of wine.

I'm 26 and I'd prefer it.

I'm 35 and have felt like that for a long time. Noisy, smelly, pub where you can't hear yourself think or a nice meal, with good company?!?! I know which I prefer.

I am 41 and have felt like this for a good ten years. I dread work xmas dos, but on mat leave this year

I think I hit this stage at about 25 after going out drinking for about ten years (yes, was in first night club at 15, not proud of it etc, etc).

A nice meal, a decent bottle of red and some trashy good telly are my idea of a perfect Saturday night now

Maybe just some hungrier friends?

I'm similar age to you. A good evening out is a meal with friends, the boozing side of it is take it or leave it. The only exception to this is weddings where food/booze/dancing all acceptable (and fun).

I've been out for two Christmas socials this week (both times driving) and by 10.30 i've been thinking I'd rather be at home watching tv in my PJs

I'm 37 and love a night in. I'm going out tonight and dreading it, but I think it does me good to get my glad rags on once in a while, even if its just to remind myself what a bloody palava it is. We are eating, thankfully, so that's at least 2 hours away from the cattle market bars, but the restaurant we're going to is a bit crap.

I love going out into town with my DH, revisiting all the 'spit and sawdust' pubs of our younger days... but tonight will invlove scummy bars with leering pissed men and women who possibly should either wear tights/knickers who give you 'evils', posh bars with leering pissed men with wannabe models who give you evils. We won't be going to the friendly goth/rock club, nor my favourite cabaret bar that attracts interesting people. I am dreading it.

I am looking forward to doing my hair though and wearing heels.

YANBU Greedygirl

I could always decline the invitation, but its my friend's 30th birthday and her friends all being there means a lot to her. I want a 'best mate ever' badge after this though!

Hurrah !! Thank god. My DH thinks I am miserable. I think my optimum conditions for enjoyment are being able to sit down, being able to hear myself think and being able to eat. I had a great night out last xmas where they played indie/90s music and I relived my youth and danced my socks off. But I have had so many disappointing nights out this year that I would rather just stay in.

Aldiwhore - I usually like getting dressed up and wearing heels too but have found myself wondering how to incorporate my flat biker-type boots into an outfit. I wonder if I have reached a new stage of being sensible. I used to pity women who valued comfort over style but now I think they very wise.

I'm out tonight for a birthday meal and plan to be back home earlyish.
I've also wondered if I can get away with my knitted dress, tights and biker boots. Possibly not as it's Christmas and everyone will be in glittery party wear!

Do it Dillydolly! Everyone will be envious and you will look all glowing (cos you are warm!).

Sylviabells - nodded my head off re the pjs comment. I was at a wedding party last week, someone my DH used to work with, lovely wedding but OMG the night seemed to go on forever.

I've been like this for the last 5 years or so and i am 36.

The big nights out were such a letdown and i couldn't justify the hangover for 2 days, after drinking alcohol. If i went out on a Saturday night it would be Tuesday before i felt human again.

I can no longer drink alcohol at all, so i would much rather go for a nice meal, to the cinema or stay in with a takeaway.

YANBU!

I was like that when I was your age.
Now I am 44 and I say bring it on!

Oooh that is interesting OhdoadmitMrsD! Why is that do you think?

LittleJenny - I am totally with you re the hangovers. Such a waste of time! I think part of my problem with alcohol these days is that I don't have the luxury of time to recover or the spare cash to spend on booze. Plus we have moved further out of town so the taxi ride home is ! But i still love the odd [ahem!] glass of wine.

I'm 29 and just couldnt be arsed anymore . But in all fairness I'm now expecting dc6 so am currently tee total and even when I'm not pregnant the thought of a hangover with my tribe is a new form of hell that can only be suffered about once a year

Try it u might like it. I'm 33 and I love my boozy nights out rolling in at 4am........it's just harder to recover now when 3 DCs need my attention!

I'm 36 & feel exactly the same. I've been going this way for a while. But OP, it was at 35 I thought- 'no way, never again' on the subject of clubbing. Come to think of it, perhaps it wasn't age, perhaps it was series 1 of The Killing being shown. It is brilliant, way better than going out!

I'm relieved to see some of you feel the way I do. I was feeling like a freak after gettIng roundly flamed yesterday for saying I thought drunken crashing on friends' sofas when you are pushing 40 is a little odd.

Glad I saw this thread!

I'm 33 and going out tonight.

Just realised I'll miss the X factor final

Tonight is a buffet, a disco then probably a club.

Already I'm wondering what time I can sneak off. To make matters worse the people I'm going out with always buy me shots and spirits. I just want to to drink wine and go home at a decent time.

Then there's the taxi fee to get home

I don't understand the idea that drinking and dancing is intrinsically 'interesting' whereas conversation is 'boring'. I've long found the opposite.

YANBU, I'm 25 and feel the same luckily lots of my friends feel the same this years, lots of dinners out :)

Ooh, Rhubarb, don't bring the other thread into this, that was more complicated (and we will want an update), this is about your choice alone.

Feeling great now I have found some fans of staying in (ignoring your comment Bonkerz - 4 a.m.!!!!! You are indeed bonkers .)

Lottiegb - yep, there is definitely some inverted snobbery in that logic somewhere. My Dh regularly calls me boring and miserable (sounds harsher here than in reality) for not wanting to have a drink but if I am happy sober then what difference does it make really?!

Thebigkahuna - I fear shots may be involved tonight. Mind you a tequila used to do the trick so maybe it can help me out again!

Oh God you sound like me!
I'm 41, and I'm out tonight, and although i'm sort of looking forward to it,my freind is all into pubs and drinking and staiying out til 3am
My limit is 1am, I cannot stand the hangover the next day, it's cold out there, and some pissed up lurchey lerring old fart will end up attaching himself to me or my mate, yuk.
I am supposed to be out mad friday too, "ooooh, it'll be great, busy and everyone will be there" says my friend.
Bleugh, no ta,it'll be even colder, queing to get into pubs, queing to buy a drink, queing to get a taxi.......
I AM officially old

P.s tip for a milder if non existent hangover.....when you get in take 2 ibuprophen tablets with as much water as you can stomach without chucking up, you will sleep better and not have a headache next day