Picking up from school policy!

[Smokedsalmonbagel]

Yesterday I had to get a friend to pick up DS1 (4) from school as DS2 is really poorly.

The school office were really helpful and said I could give the details of the person picking him up over the phone. I specifically asked would someone speak to DS1 as he wouldn't be expecting anyone else collecting him.

When DS1 finally got home he said he was just handed a form and no one told him who was collecting him. He read on the form who it was (another mum) and was ushered out to her.

Anyway I spoke to the teacher today and her cover teacher had the class yesterday so she couldn't really comment but basically she thought it wasn't a big deal. I think it should have been handled better and would have liked for DS to have been told.

I might be making a big thing out of nothing as exhausted with DS2 but hay thought I'd ask!

Aside from anything else, can he read school forms at the age of 4?

He can read a bit and he recognised the name as we've known this mum a long time.

Sorry, agree that the teacher should have told your DS what was going on but I don't think this is much of a big deal, was your DS really that bothered to have another familiar mum collect him instead of you?

Ah, well I think thats pretty good for a 4 year old,
Tho I do think a teacher should have spoken to him as well.

I think the school should definitely have told him. On the rare occasion this has happened to me the admin staff actually go and tell DD that I'll be late/Mrs x will be collecting her.

That's a bit bad. At our school the reception ladies phone through to the teacher and then the teacher or TA will tell a child who is picking them up.

If he has known the other mum for a long time, then why is there any problem?

I wouldnt be too sure about taking a 4yo's word for if they had been told something or not to be honest.

It's no biggie, really is it?

He was picked up by someone he knew, not unduly upset, no issues?
Mine will happily toddle off with whoever - though if he's sensitive to routine I can see it could have been a little bit of a problem.

depends on age as to if they do, i know when older they would tell the dc, but at 4 i doubt it, and as it was already someone they already knew really well i don't see the problem at all. i would not think twice about it, infact i know of a few parents and myself that have asked a friend [another parent] to collect their dc's from school and have not even told the school [never a problem though as they have had said friend pick up many times and they are known and on the list, a bit different though if a one off or first time]

Thanks for opinions.

I agree its not a big deal but I still think they should have spoken to him as it was the first time and unexpected.

He was a bit grumpy with me but had fun with the other mum and friend so no harm done.

Wow at him being able to read another mum's name at the age of 4! But yes the teacher should def have told him who was collecting him, and told him why. V poor imo.