AIBU to let the girlfriend live here permantly

[CreamolaFoamless]

I have moaned about her on here on numerous occassions and have said to DS1 and her

'No she has to go come January' but know she has become all lovely and friendly

She also said 'I don't thrive at my mums' I feel lonely

Do I stick to my guns and kick her out or let her move in?

Why would MN know? Do what you want.

Not really an "AIBU" really as it really is down to how you feel.

You are not being unreasonable to chuck anyone out of your house since it is your house and she isn't your offspring so you have no responsibility for her. In saying that though, it would not be unreasonable for you to let her stay if you are happy to be around her and have changed your mind.

If I were you... I would stay quiet for now and see how it goes. See if you want her out come January and then if you do, start helping her find somewhere or tell her it is time to go. Or, if you decide you don't mind her staying you could agree to let her stay "for now"...

I think you should let her stay. I shouldn't want someone else's kid's failure to thrive on my conscience.

why would MN know ?

cool answer Fanjeau are you going to use that answer with everyone who posts tonight?

You were very helpful......errrrrr not

...she has become all lovely and friendly

Has this suddenly started as January approaches?

Is the amount loveliness displayed inversely propoprtional to the amount of time left before January?

Sounds like she's moved in already if she has to go come January.

Why don't you want her there?

Not enough info

How old is she? Why doesn't she want to stay with her own parents? How does your DS feel about it?

she's 18

she fell out with her mum and she (her muum) through her out the house

she has been her for around 3 months because she she sort of landed here rather than having being invited here ITMS

I got conversational channels opened again between her mum , and her mum wants her to move back but she doesn't want to go home

she has moved in but as long term guest not a permant household member

I'm not sure if she's becoming nicer but she knows I'm getting ready to chuck her out ....or if she does actually do better here than at home ??

this is what confusing me?

Should I just say 'go home' come January ? what if she she becomes all shy and silly again ? I'll feel guilty

Does she work and contribute?

What does your ds think?

Why not ask her to go home for a trial period of a month and if it does not work you will welcome her back but if she is not in full time education she has to find work so she can contribute.