AIBU to not want to travel to ex ps parents over Xmas?

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My ex partners mother and my daughters grandmother constantly harasses me to visit her which is two hours drive away.
She comes down to London every two weeks at least and visits us then. My ex ps brothers live here but go back to the family home during all holidays. So she expects me to come too.
It is emotionally difficult for me to be at ex ps family home. We have not been separated very long. It is also difficult for me to travel with my toddler and expensive.
This Xmas I invited her and all her family to lunch at mine and said it could be any day they chose the week between Xmas and New Year but all declined except ex ps mother who said she would try to come.
So now she is asking me to come up there instead and is hassling my ex p too about it which is causing arguments between us.
AIBU not to go? Should I be visiting her or is ok for her to come to me?

You're not being unreasonable not to go. It sounds as though they want to play happy families. It's unfair on everyone for them to do this.

Don't go! It was good of you to invite her, but that doesn't mean you have to go somewhere that is emotionally difficult for you.

What kind of Christmas would you like to have?

I will be having a quiet Xmas with ex p visiting in the morning before heading back home to his family and my mother coming over in the afternoon.I would have liked to have had a family Xmas but it isn't possible.
I don't mind spending time with his family but at Xmas time it feels harder.

Surely one of the benefits of divorce is that you DON'T have to put up with this sort of shite from the ex-ILs?

Yes parakeet that is exactly one of the things I said in the argument with ex p. Seems the ex ils don't realise this.

Why can't your ex p take the children to visit his mother himself?