....even for a holiday. He is 36 and emigrated to NZ about 5 years ago with his girlfriend. I think good on him for taking that leap to emigrating and they are enjoying it, and are settled, so absolutely fair enough. I fully don't expect him to ever move back to the UK but in a phone call a few years ago when I asked if he was ever coming back to visit he basically said 'I'll come back whenever I get that phone call' ie, when I call him to say one of our parents is dead. He has never returned even for a holiday. Yes I know it's up to him where he holidays but the fact remains that our parents are getting old and my mum in particular is in ill health, both physically and with dementia. They haven't seen him in over 5 years and cannot travel to see him.
Now he has announced he is getting married but he said it's early next year (said via text, we only speak about once a year). It is in NZ, ie my parents can't go, I can't go due to being pregnant with child number 3 and due to the cost and my sister won't go cos of cost & family too.
I just think it's weird. My family aren't close but none of us have fallen out or anything. He just seems to have gone to the other side of the world and cut off all ties pretty much. He has never sent anything to my kids etc or taken any interest in them.
I think the main thing is that he doesn't plan on seeing his parents alive again. AIBU to think he should at least come over before they get even older? Or just let him be?