I have no problem atall with co sleeping, infact the few times it's happened with DS I think it's been a magical experience. But in the main in his 2 and a half years he's always slept in his own bed. When he was a baby I found I couldn't sleep with him in the bed, and he's always slept better too in his own space. I also feel I really need my own space, and space with my husband at night time.
He's always slept well too, with occassional blips. Usually when he hits a patch of bad sleeping we'll take it in turns to go into him and give him a cuddle, tuck him back in and leave him to it, until he settles. Have always found being consistent, loving and firm has worked eventually.
But this is different. Maybe because he's talking now rather than crying. Or maybe because he's never shown any interest in sleeping with us before. But these last couple of months he's waking at 3am, 4am , 5am for no apparent reason that I can fathom, but shouting, screaming hysterically for "Mummy and Daddy's bed" . I find it heartbreaking because he's so certain that that is what he wants, and if I'm giving him a cuddle he'll struggle free and run through.
I feel awful denying him what he wants, because I can't think of any reason other than I don't want him there. And that feels a horrible thing for a mother to say to her son. But I don't want him there :-( , I want my space and my sleep. It wouldn't be so bad but he doesn't sleep in our bed, he just pokes me and pulls my hair, kicks me, etc.
But I don't know how to help him understand, what to say, than than NO. I'm wondering whether he wants a proper bed of his own maybe? as he's still in is cot (still can't climb out so never bothered to change it) Or maybe giving him his own bed would make the problem worse? Am I being unfair to him?
soo tired.